In your recent posts, it appears that you are working from home or staying at home to recuperate.
Close. In my line of work, I can work just as effectively from either my home or my office. In fact, my office is so secluded that sometimes my coworkers don't know whether I'm in or not.
Usually I choose to work from home when I know I'm not in any type of emotional state to go into the office. That happened a lot right after D-Day, but happens a lot less often now. Still happens though, unfortunately.
I read the post above, and I hope you did not tell your neighbors - it is not their business.
No-one knows about my wife's A except for me, her, the OM and whoever he's told (I expect that he's told his GF and one or two others). I didn't feel it necessary to do any sort of exposure - the A (at least the PA) had ended several months before my FWW decided to tell me about it.
Of course, if anything starts up again between my FWW and the OM, then I'll have to change my tactics, but I consider that possibility very, very remote at the moment.
I am a department head and have the OW on staff, but I have NO interest in her or any of her ill-conceived plans - she can go find another sucker with "deep pockets" to take care of her and her kids. As a matter of fact, from this point forward I will not even dignify OW by even mentioning IT (creature from black lagoon).
My opinion: you should go even further and actively encourage the OW to transfer or find some other means of employment; while you may be comfortable with your current situation, it appears that your BS certainly isn't, and the effect that this is having on her is very apparent in her posts.
In my FWW's case, transfer is not an option, neither is finding other employment - at least for the moment. But we are working on a "long range" plan that includes possible migration to another country. My only concern is that, since migration is such a big step for any family, we should be well on our way to recovery, or fully recovered, before taking that step. If the continued presence of the OM will adversely affect our recovery, as suggested by the information on this website and almost every member of this forum <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />, we might be in a "Catch 22" situation here. My only consolation here is my FWW has expressed that she now knows what the OM really is like and she will not get involved with him again, and Harley's NC advice tends to be focussed on As that are ongoing at the time of discovery, not those that have been over for months, if not longer.
Getting back to your quote, you must be a saint.
LOL - or a schmuck. Depends on who's doing the viewing <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.
Certainly I think that my FWW still doesn't have a very high opinion of me - or has great difficulty showing it. Quite recently I asked her what she likes about me, and her response was that she prefers to point out what she doesn't like, and if she doesn't point out something, then I should assume that she likes it. Of course, that REALLY helps my self-esteem, LOL.
I probably would have scanned the entire house for DNA, or physical evidence - I am not suggesting this, but this would have been my mind set.
I was considering removing every item of furniture from the bedroom and burning it. Might still do it too, if I get angry enough one day. Luckily I've been able to control my anger a lot more than I thought I could over the past few months <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.
