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I think I'm going to use you as my role model of the day! Thanks, losttranslation. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I'm certainly no role model, though. I'm stumbling along and picking myself up, just like everyone else, LOL, but I am having a lot more fun than I used to. Hi, Gimble and StillHereMakingIt. STBX didn't get any Thanksgiving treats from me (food or otherwise, LOL). The kids told me MOW made a Thanksgiving lunch for the four of them (gag). The kids had to sit at a table with their dad and his married skankylosaur and be thankful. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> They said MOW's son wasn't there. I wonder if they asked God's blessing before they ate. According to the kids, it was a silent meal - no talking, just eating. They were both quite hungry when we had Thanksgiving dinner at my parents' house two hours later. They said they didn't feel like eating much at their dad's. Stupid alien. Stupid skankylosaur. No reason not to have a bit of fun <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Oh, Gimble, I am definitely having some fun. I smiled and waved at MOW as she spied on me from behind the blinds when I picked up the kids. She quickly closed the blinds. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> I also smiled and waved at STBX, who had no reason to come out with the kids, but at least kept his distance this time. He looked me up and down. I just thought, "Go ahead, compare your chunky, older, unattractive, married skankylosaur to what you threw away. Mwaaahaahaahaa!" I am glad that you have touched all his tools and even used some of them. Feels good doesn't it? It does feel good, and empowering. Sadly, I have a lot to learn when it comes to using tools. My home repair skills leave a lot to be desired. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> But...I haven't killed anyone or caused too much structural damage...yet. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I'm working on a tongue-in-cheek poem to commemorate Bam-Bam's 43rd birthday today, to be posted later, LOL. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Me 40, STBXWH 43
Married 16 years
D-day 01/25/05
Son 14, Daughter 10
Divorce almost final - I hope!
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A toast to my formerly beloved Bam-Bam on his 43rd birthday. It's supposed to be bad poetry. Humor me, LOL. After you first left me, Without a reason why, My world collapsed in darkness And I thought I'd surely die. For all those nights I blamed myself, Wondering what I could do, Begging God to lead you home, To the one who loved you true. For all the times I cried alone While you tore our family apart, The times I had to be strong and smile While a knife twisted in my heart For all those times you were out with Who knows who, who knows where, While your gullible, devoted wife Washed your socks and underwear <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> I raise a glass to you. As time went on, I found out You're just like your cheating brothers. You abandoned us for a woman Who is like your psycho mother.<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Here's a newsflash for you, Bam-Bam: I don't want you any more! Enjoy all the happiness you deserve <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> With your cheating wh...umm...skankylosaur.<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> You left me with two kids, two dogs, one cat, a dying minivan, An aging house, and lots of bills, But I'm doing the best I can. Try and be a man, if you can, And be a father, loving and kind. I'm still picking up the pieces Of the kids you left behind. All the lessons I have learned All the he!! you put me through But things are looking up for me, You still have to live with you! So, I raise a toast to you, Bam-Bam, To the man you used to be. Thanks so much for proving You're not man enough for me. Happy birthday, Bam-Bam. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
Me 40, STBXWH 43
Married 16 years
D-day 01/25/05
Son 14, Daughter 10
Divorce almost final - I hope!
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But things are looking up for me,
You still have to live with you!
Love this line....sooner or later they will have to look in the mirror....oh yes....
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Damn, she's good! As the saying goes, the best revenge is living good! You are alright, Pebbles. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Thanks so much for proving
You're not man enough for me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> You go, Pebs! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
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LOL - nice. Maybe a separate thread for "good" names for the OP might be in order? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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You too? One of the things that made me the maddest was being home doing his socks and undies while he wined and dined his wh...um, skankylosaur. (Loved that one, too!)
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Pebbles, love the poem. I hope to be where you are at one day! It's hard when I'm dumped with urgent problems to solve, like where am I going to stay once this apt is sold off. And once I try to solve one, out crops another. All due to WS' actions. You give me some hope and inspiration. I love reading your thread <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ~A
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Nice poem, Pebbles.
Bam Bam is a fool.
In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.
Me, betrayed wife 46
Former Wandering Husband, 51 E/A 2005
28 years of marriage
DD 26, DS 24
O/W aka, Rat 29, A-D Assisted Living
Discovery 8-20-05 Recovery ongoing.
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Happy birthday, Bam Bam. What a jerk. Like they say, be careful what you wish for. I hope he's happy.
Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.
Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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Hi, Pebbles.
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Thanks so much for proving
You're not man enough for me.
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That -FACT- causes him more misery than you know. It is the driving force behind his intimidation attempts. It is the wedge that already exists between him and John's wife. It is the wedge that is inexorably driving them apart.
Too bad you can't hit it with a sledge hammer and drive the wedge home.
What sucks the most for him is that you have given him what he said he wanted, you have moved on.
He will not live 'happily ever after' with John's wife. He will end up sad and alone, wallowing in a pool of his own stupidity and stubborn pride.
You have shown incredible forbearance and strength, Pebbles. Your effort to restore your marriage has been above reproach.
Well done, Pebbles.
God bless,
Gimble
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
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me: FBS
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Lady, you are one class act.
My heroine!
One day soon your STBXWH is going to snap out of his brain-fog and realise just what he has lost.
Too late for him. Too late.
Alph.
Me, BS 37
Him, WXH (Noddy) 40
DD13, DD6
Married 14th August 1993
D/Day 2nd April 05
Noddy left us 3rd April 05, lives with OW (Omelette) 28
Divorce final 6th July '06.
Time wounds all heels... - Groucho Marx
...except when it doesn't. - Graycloud
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Thanks, white_daisy, MelodyLane, faithful follower, ManInMotion, Neak, Ashley, kdsheartbreak, grapegirl, Gimble, and Alph, for humoring me and reading my non-love poem for Bam-Bam. Thank you, also, for the kind comments. Ashley, I've been saying good-bye to STBX for almost a year now, and I really don't miss him at all any more. With all the cruel things he has done, to me and the kids, he has pretty much burned any loving feelings I had right out of me - like cauterizing a wound. When the divorce is final, which, God willing, will be very soon, it will almost be anticlimactic. I will shed no more tears over this man, he doesn't deserve them. I do admit that I still have some damaged pride/self-esteem issues from time to time. And it still hurts that he puts the children through so much indignity, expecting them to spend time and dine with the woman they know he left our family for. I do shed tears for the children fairly often. Too bad you can't hit it with a sledge hammer and drive the wedge home. , the thing is, I really just don't care enough any more. If it weren't for the kids, I really wouldn't care what STBX and MOW do. They can live their twisted version of happily-ever-after, for all I care. I still believe in my happily-ever-after, with all the work it involves. It will be a different happily-ever-after than I was expecting, but maybe better than what I had before. C'est la vie. You have shown incredible forbearance and strength, Pebbles. Your effort to restore your marriage has been above reproach. Well done, Pebbles. Thank you, Gimble. I got all teary-eyed when I read that. You have been on my side since the beginning, and 'thank you' doesn't begin to express my gratitude for your support and advice. It would be an honor to kick infidel booty with you any time (as long as you save me the little ones). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Married 16 years
D-day 01/25/05
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I guess I'm not above a catty, petty comment, LOL. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> I wonder if STBX missed his 'special' birthday present this year? The one that can't (usually <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />) be wrapped. I used to try to come up with something fun and different (if you know what I mean, wink, wink) for birthdays and special occasions. He used to always look forward to it, asking when he would get his 'real' present. I hear MOW is great at cleaning STBX's lair (meeeoooow!!). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Me 40, STBXWH 43
Married 16 years
D-day 01/25/05
Son 14, Daughter 10
Divorce almost final - I hope!
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I used to try to come up with something fun and different (if you know what I mean, wink, wink) for birthdays and special occasions. What a ho! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I used to try to come up with something fun and different (if you know what I mean, wink, wink) for birthdays and special occasions. What a ho! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I never dressed up as one of those, but I'll keep it in mind for possible future use. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
Me 40, STBXWH 43
Married 16 years
D-day 01/25/05
Son 14, Daughter 10
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