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#1515613 11/06/05 06:37 PM
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well JLS and MR.E here it is....a thread all about horse talk...lol <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

i figure i'll start.....i own a maybe three yr old, quarter horse/morgan cross. he came from kentucky through an auction. i've named him ARGENTO. he is maybe 15 hands tall and 1060 lbs. i ride western, never learned english but always figured i would someday.lol i am training him right now and he is doing really good. i usually ride him 3-4 times a week for training. he is at a barn with about 22 other horses. so i have a large field of horses to choose from for riding. we help out there(ys and i) on the weekends. i am learning everyday new things.....just finished learning how to deal with rain rot! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

so, jls, ask away.....and mr e...please join in! and anyone else who wants to talk horsey's to pass the time and keep your mind off of other things for a few minutes....lets talk!


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Hi Nikko -

Horses are a passion of mine. I took riding lessons(English, don't bash me!!) when I was little and got a horse when I was 13. A beautiful Quarter Horse. She was my best friend a lot of days!! You can tell a horse a lot of things & they will always be there for you!

When I left for college I had to leave my horse behind......I got busy with life, etc. Before DS was born, a co-worker of mine got me back into horses. He had 6 and was even going to GIVE me a Thoroughbred that he rescued from the tracks. This TB and I were perfect together......Well, about that time my "mom" clock kicked in and I decided to stop the horse thing for a while. Now it's turned into 6 years of no horses.

I think the co-worker wanted a bit more from me than I knew. He was much older and he and his wife didn't do the horse thing together. Come to find out about 6 months later his wife caught him in bed with another woman. YIKES.

Looking back I see where my R with him was totally inappropriate. We met for drinks after work & had recreational time together. I was not physically attracted to him AT ALL. Plus I was deeply in love with my H. Pretty scary about that whole thing though.

So, I've gotten off track here with the horse thing!!!

I intend to start taking lessons somewhere. It would be a great thing for me.

English is a lot of fun. Especially jumping!! It gives you quite a thrill. You should try it!!

I've never seen a Quarter Horse/Morgan cross. What color is he? I love the name too!!!

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I think the co-worker wanted a bit more from me than I knew. He was much older and he and his wife didn't do the horse thing together. Come to find out about 6 months later his wife caught him in bed with another woman. YIKES.

Looking back I see where my R with him was totally inappropriate. We met for drinks after work & had recreational time together. I was not physically attracted to him AT ALL. Plus I was deeply in love with my H. Pretty scary about that whole thing though.

Not meaning to but in. I am glad you are looking at getting into your passion, watch out though. If your H is not joining you. My WS had a trainer offer to let my WS catch ride a horse and 3 months later they are in an affair.


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I am a fellow horse lover. I lived next door to a stables during my junior high years and could be found at the stables from sun up til sun down. I took english, jumping and western lessons. I would chase for the dude horses almost all days during the summer. Those were some of the best days of my life. I always promised myself a horse when I grew up and sadly I haven't fulfilled that dream. There was an ad in the newspaper the other day, asking for volunteers for the Sheriff Possee's Search and Rescue Team. Oh, how I would love to volunteer for that if I only had a horse.
BTW, My personalized car license is Gidiup.
Thats is about as close of contact with a horse for many, many years. Lol.


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Waiting - Believe me I will be careful. That incident was more than 6 years ago & I am much wiser. I would just really love to ride again. Even if it is just once a month.

KDHB - Love your license plate!! I looked into volunteering for a program that incorporated phsyical therapy on horseback for disabled and people with special needs. You might check into that in your area. You would get to be around horses, wouldn't need one and would get to help others. Of course, you wouldn't be riding but who knows? One of the kickbacks from volunteering might be a bit of free riding now & again. The program that I checked into was moving to a different stable so I am searching for others in my area....

I used to spend all my days at the stable too. About a year ago my brother bought some property with a barn, etc. He got horses for his girls. I have had the chance to ride with them some - he lives two hours away though. Now that I am in Plan B though, I can go down there more often!!!

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Hey nikk,

However did I miss this earlier? I thought you would post in IVille, but this is probably better. Most horsepeops are Idiots tho, present company not excluded!

Yeah, nikko, they (horsies) are my "thing", as my one girlfriend says. She is not a horsegirl, but she knows that we all have our "thing". I just got back from picking D15 up from the boarding barn that my D rides at sometimes (my friend owns it and is the trainer). We help out there too much. Usually in exchange for lessons, my D gets paid for some work (esp since she was helping pay off her horse's knee surgery). She, D15, helped "bring in and feed", it took her and another teen and that teen's dad about 1 1/2 hours to do this - there are close to 50 horses there right now, we've lost count-.

We have 3 TBs, one is mine, one is my Ds and 1 is going soon. We have 1 large pony (about 14 1/2 H) and a mini (he might go soon too). We just sold our old Belgian. After we "cleanse the herd", we hope to pick up a Qhorse that my H can ride (he probably won't tho) and that I can ride trails with. My TB (Beau, barn name "Bologna") is a great horse, pretty calm for a TB, just not that trailworthy and we need a really calm one for H and visitors! Our large pony (Chelsey, also known as Runaway Chelsey and Chelsey Marie - my lil pet name) is the best, he is about 20-21 yrs. tho and had a club foot from probable past founder when we got him. He is hard to keep sound. He foundered twice in the past 2 years also, once when we were on vacation, I was so upset when we came back. He is going good right now, my S8 is riding him some and really loving it. Chelsey does like to go and S is getting a good seat, even if he (S) doesn't listen or ride "correctly". Chelsey was probably an old dressage pony, he knows ALOT. He has done ponyclub with my daughter, he loves to jump, a little eventing (but he's getting too old) and barrels TOO. We got her, D, to ride western finally a few years ago and that pony helped her wipe up at the local show more than once. He won poles and got 2nd in barrels the first time out! He is such a joy, and I can trail on him, just hate to work him too hard and, like I said, he is hard to keep sound.

As you can see, I could go on and on, but will just add more later. That rainrot is nothing. We bought a pony a few years ago that came with it. My Beau gets "scratches" almost every year on his hind legs, sometimes prety bad. Povidone Iodine seems to knock those fungiis out the best. Plus scratches can be fungus and/or bacterial...We tried everything and some ointments work, but Povidone seems to work the most consistently, I use the solution mostly, you can leave that on. If you use the scrub, it has to be rinsed off.

I'll be back later for "HorseTalk"!

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I love horses too. I have all of my life. As a kid, every time I made a wish, it was for a horse. Finally, on my 12th birthday I got one, an Arab mare. From 12 to 20, I could be found at the barn. I didn't date, had no interest in anything except horses.

When I went away to college, I stopped riding, but we still kept my horse.

I always said I would have horses when I could, but it is too hard in Southern California. There are very few places to ride. I do work on a military base, and go riding there alot.

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Hi Believer - You and I have a similar background with the horse thing.... Too bad you live so far away!! We could go riding together.

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Kimberly - I learned how to ride Western first, and then took English (and jumping) lessons. I love both. Now I ride Western - that's all they have at the base.

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Hey horsepoeple,

If anybody is near St louis, I got some that need riding!

Nikko, when everything calms down, come back and tell me what you do at the barn to help out. Do you clean stalls, give lessons...? Have you been riding long? How old is YS again? My S8 is just now getting into riding a but more!

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hey b, I didn't know you liked horses, too. Of course, what's not to like? I even like the smell (mostly).

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WELL NOT EXACTLY CALM BUT.....lol

i basically do everything and anything...clean, groom, saddle, feed, unsaddle...lol whatever needs to be done.lol the list is neverending! the "lessons" are just general hack type lessons. just the basics. i have been riding as long as ive been walking..lol. son started when he was 4. he is now 10. again he just does western general hack/trail riding. he is now wanting to learn more. but dang...that boy looks so good bareback....

thanks for keeping this going for me...its was nice to read!

HI EVERYONE ELSE!!!


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Hi Nikko - Hope things are going better for you.

Back to horses - I sure would love to get one again. One funny thing is my younger sister who never wanted anything to do with them when we were growing up. Suddenly in the last few years she has been taking riding lessons and is now planning to buy a house on some acreage and get a horse. She lives in Washington, near a lot of riding trails.

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Hey guys! I recognize a few of you! What a neat thread! can I join in?

I have a 19 year old grey Arabian gelding. We've owned him since he was about 10 and done everything with him -- Country English Pleasure, Barrels, Parades, Costume classes, Halter, Trails, you name it. Our favorite thing to do with his is go riding at the beach, way out in the water. He is a real trooper.

here are a few links to him if you're interested:

My Pony

My Pony Page II


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Interestign that so many here have horses or an interest in them. I have had a pony or horse since I was 4.

I showed in 4-h and I competed as a youth and amateur on the Quarter horse circuit in Oregon. I qualified to go to the American Quarter horse Youth World Show in 1993 but was unable to go to the huge expense.

I grew up with Welsh ponies. I have had my current quater horse since he was 2 and now he is almost 18. I have had him over half my life and longer than my WH.

My son has a pony, my mom has to quarter horses and my dad one. We are expecting a baby from my dad's mare.

All of our horses are at my parent's home. They live on 5 acre's and just built a 60 x 120 indoor arena and stalls.


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Another equine lover here...

Still - Your photo's are great - just gotta love those Arabs..The refined head is breathtaking...and when that tail goes up - and they flaunting their "stuff" ..it's a luxury to see and enjoy.

My guy is 1/2 Arab he doesn't have a deep dish face but he has refinement and huge soft eyes..

I've loved horses all my life never had one until 5 years ago - and WH says that's why he cheats on me..I gave all my attn. to the horse..I believed that for awhile, then I wised up..Yes, he was jealous of the horse but that's not why he cheated..and it started way b-4 I got my horse.

Anyway - w/o my horse I never would have survived my WH A's..he gives me strength to fight this battle and survive..

I think God put horses into my life at my late age because he knew I needed something to get thru the pain. I also think us horse people stick together like glue..There isn't anything I wouldn't do for my horsey friends or their horses..We all have bond that a non-horsey person just doesn't "get"...

I ride english..and love it...

I sold my soul to God yesterday..long story short - my beloved horse was in distress - at the time I didn't know how bad he was injured..I begged, screamed, pleaded w/God not to take him from me..not now..I couldn't bear losing him..God heard me...right now I believe the injury is not longterm, so God answered my prayers. Now I have to hold up my side of the bargin and let go of the anger and hate I harbour for those who have hurt me w/no remorse.

God didn't answer my prayers to save my M- t Garth Brooks has a song that spells that out - thanking God for his unanswered prayers. Someday, I may be able to shout it from the rooftops...

Hugs..

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Hi ITHurts,

Yeah, I get the jealous of horses thing. My H admitted that when I got into horses again, he was jealous. Jealous that I seemed to be happy, He was not but didn't say so. Not jealous of my time, jealous that I had something and he didn't.

I would have sold my soul too (if mine was worth that much). I have had a pony (my D15s before and now my S8s, and I ride too-he's 14.2H) that has foundered 2X...He had a clubby foot when we got him, always knew that he probably had foundered before. I have gome to extreme lengths to get this pony better. It has been worth it (to me), he is a great pony! I don't know if H thinks it has been worth it, altho I always ask him?!

SLH, I have seen your pics on other threads...you take great pics.

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SLH, I have seen your pics on other threads...

:: ducking with embarassment ::

I know, I know, I post pics of my boy a lot. But gosh I love that horse! He is always game for anything and never quits. And like others have said, he's been a wonderful, gentle companion when things are rough at home and I need an escape.

Thanks for the compliments, JlSeagull and ITHURTS. Honestly, horses are really easy to capture on film -- their spirit and beauty shine through. I love to just watch him frolic and play in the pasture -- it makes my heart sing!

ITHURTS, you said your guy is half Arab -- what's the other half? There are a lot of 1/2 Arabs at the barn where we are at that look more Arab than my "pure" Arab is, LOL (he has virtually no dish and is wide as a percheron!). He is definitely the "older style" Arabian.

Now you are going to have to honor your "bargain", IH! How have you been doing with that? And is your boy okay today? What happened to him?

I'd love to see other folks horses if you have the pics!


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SLH,

I know how to post an url, but how do I post a pic from my desktop - or is that even possible?

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im clueless too....don't know how to post pics...i have them on photobucket.com.

your arab is beautiful.....we have a mare just like him...princess.(we as in the barn, not me personally..lol)

i am so glad people are interested in this thread, and i apologize for starting it and going awol...lol. have some personal stuff with son going on...it is calming down now though...thank god.


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