I am meeting my attorney at his office in the morning. We will ride down to the courthouse together and will attempt to negotiate a settlement. If we are unsuccessful, a judge will divide our debt/assets.
I am just hoping that I will be able to afford to keep my home and will be able to move forward financially. God, I hope this turns out well. I have lost so much, I dont need to lose anymore. I dont even want to go tomorrow.

Sorry to hear about your situation. Hopefully you and your spouse can come to an ameable settlement. It sucks and it hurts, but that is normal. I will say a prayer for you and hopefully things will work out. I too live in Texas and I am going through my second divorce. I feel your pain and just wanted you to know there is some one thinking about you.

Thanks dlw,
I will go tomorrow. I will be strong (I think). I will place it all in God's hands and I will survive this. I guess the good news is that I wont have this hanging over my head during the holidays. It will still be fresh, but at least it will be over.

Just checking in to see how you are doing. Did things go well or did it get messy?

Well folks.....it is done. Took about 30 minutes to get an agreement. She actually agreed to what she had supposedly turned down in September. We started out reviewing the proposals that we had submitted and I brought up the last one by mentioning the dollar amount. She said "what X-dollar proposal." Everyone realized that her atty had never told her about it. Her atty quickly tried to change the subject, but it was too late. Sensing that he was in trouble he quickly changed gears and started telling her that she should accept it. Every time she tried get snippy on an issue he simply told her to stop and be quiet. The meeting evolved into 3 against 1. She was hung out to dry by this guy. I almost felt sorry for her. So.....I guess reality came crashing down on her and it was too late.
Well, its over with. I walk away knowing I did everything I could have done. I walk away with my life pretty much intact with the exception of the marriage. I walk away with the knowledge of what it takes to "affair proof and divorce proof" a marriage. I walk away with an understanding of what went wrong and why. Ultimately, I walk away a better man than I was before. My XW walks away with some equity from the house and not much else from what I can see. I feel bad for her, but I know there isnt anything I could have done to change that. Her choices were her choices alone. I hope and pray that someday she can find her way back to God, and ultimately to the person that she was before all of this. She was a beautiful soul, but no longer is.

I've followed your divorce all this summer as I was going through mine as well. I'm glad this part for you is over. For me the end of divorce represents the finality of it all. It has been 5 weeks and the days are getting better. Sure, I still get sad some, but it's nothing like when your WW drops the bomb that she's leaving. I'm just now entertaining the idea of dating, although I still go back and forth on it. Your marrriage has been just part of the journey that your on. God will have better things for you down the road.

Timn,
God wants us to be happy. We just have to allow him to do his thing and not limit him in what he wants to do for us.
You know, its funny in a way, as much as I didnt want this divorce, my life is better now than it has been for 10 months this crap was going on. I have some friends that have been through divorce and they predicted that after leaving the courthouse, I would want to go home and be alone for the day. Well, I had already set up a client meeting for lunch that day without knowing about the hearing date. So, I went straight from the courthouse to lunch with a client. Best meeting I have had this year! Made a sale........and everything is looking up! It was the best thing I could have done. Had another client meeting yesterday.......made a sale! I am 2 for 2 since the divorce! I think God is showing me that I am going to live again.