Hi, everyone. I know this post isn't really about infidelity at all, but I wanted to say that today would have been my dad's 53rd birthday. He died unexpectedly of a heart attack in Jan. 04. It was horrible. I was 26 years old, sitting in a funeral home making the decision to have my father's remains cremated. H was such a wonderful support during that awful time.

Dad and I were so close, and I miss him so much. I can remember clearly the last conversation we ever had. He had spent a few weeks that winter helping H finish out our bonus room in our house, and he was asking about finishing touches on the drywall and painting.

I can remember being so excited b/c H and I had just made the decision to get off the pill. I wanted to tell Dad, but I didn't.

I think Dad was lonely the last years of his life. He and Mom divorced my senior year of college. She moved out of state, and he stayed behind with my two younger brothers. When he passed away, it ripped my family apart even further. B1, who was still in school at the time, had to figure out how to live on his own. B2 ended up moving out of state. First to live with Mom, and then for a over a year with an uncle in our home state. It was awful, b/c the three of us sibs had never been apart before.

Dad had the best sense of humor. He could make something as mundane as a trip to the grocery store a hilarious story. He loved the Beatles, he loved animals, and he loved his kids. I remember how proud he was at my college graduation and on my wedding day. How much he loved H, and how much H loved him. I'm so sad DD will never know him... he would've been an awesome grandpa.

SM

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad the same way in 2002. My mom has done pretty well and my brother and I have had to get used to not having him around, but it is still tough. I will say a special prayer for you tonight.

I am sure you do miss him.

Cyber Friendship Hug, sleep well. God Bless.

Well, my dear, you had the joy of having a wonderful dad. Now you need to realize that he would still be wanting the best for you. Hang in there and hold out for it.

If you need somebody to understand...I will be her.

Lost my dad at age 58. Lost him right before my divorce battle. Lost my knight in shining armor, my defender also to heart failure.

This is why I take my work seriously btw.

My dad was misdiagnosed by a quack family practicioner md.

Foreign doc who never even put a stethescope to his chest and pronounced my dad had a "bad f lu" and gave him some antibiotic and sent him home. He had heart attack four hours later in his easy chair.

He is smiling and his love has not left you. YOu're not alone. It's only natural that we as girls, miss our dad's when we face such tough and life changing events as a divorce...my sister was pregnant when my dad died...one week later, she found out if it was a boy or girl...she so wanted my dad to know...but we know he does know.

HUgs to you...

SadMommy -

You have some most wonderful memories and thoughts of your Dad. I am sure it pains you so that he is not there to see DD and be a part of her life. He is watching over you though and I hope you feel his presence with you -

Hugs.

Kim

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You gave me a good picture in your paragraphs above of what a great Dad and person your father was (I guess I shouldn't be surprised since you're a writer)...

He is wanting the best for you now, believer is so right.

MSA

Thank you very much for the kind words, everyone. I just wanted to share that...

As much as Dad loved H, I can only imagine what he must be thinking now, watching down over this mess.

Good Morning, SM05 -

I am so sorry you lost your Dad at such a critical time in your life. It is obvious that what he instilled in his little girl is going to make a difference in your life as you handle this terrible situation you've now been forced into.

You are so fortunate to have had such a Dad. I know he was proud of you.

Georgia

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