Over the past week my husband has exhibited behavior that make me question my marriage. Looking back, I am also starting to wonder if my whole relationship with him is a sham.

Last week we were arguing and at one point he said, "well, I didn't even want to come home tonight" - to which I replied that I could move in with my dad. Then he said, "I could bruise our son, call child services and blame it on you."

I can't get past that. This week we've been talking about friends and other stuff, and last night I said that he'd agreed with me regarding a friend's behavior, and he said, "oh well, I just said that to placate you, but I don't actually agree with you."

I feel I can't trust him. Someone who would harm our son to blame it on me and take him away, someone who lies to me to make me feel he agrees with me, I don't know what to think. He told me early in our relationship that he is a master manipulator, and I think I should have listened. Now I look back at his need to always be with me, his interest in buying my clothes, always wanting to know everything and everything is taking on a sinister tone instead of "oh, he just loves me so much."

Help, please. My son is under 1 year and we've been married 3 years, after being together for 18 months.

I think you need to report him, and you need to a place of safety. There is *nothing* acceptable about joking about DV.

The fact that he stated he's a manipulator, and good at it, is enough. I used my W horribly for years, and was good at bending her and others to my will. That kind of behavior is very difficult to change. And it doesn't sound like he's interested in changing it, he's more interested in flaunting it, and showing the level of control he has over you.

The upshot is, you can always get back together, but if something bad were to happen, you will never forgive yourself. Especially if it happens to your son.

But get safe first. Reconciliation can always come later.