Well folks.....it is done. Took about 30 minutes to get an agreement. She actually agreed to what she had supposedly turned down in September. We started out reviewing the proposals that we had submitted and I brought up the last one by mentioning the dollar amount. She said "what X-dollar proposal." Everyone realized that her atty had never told her about it. Her atty quickly tried to change the subject, but it was too late. Sensing that he was in trouble he quickly changed gears and started telling her that she should accept it. Every time she tried get snippy on an issue he simply told her to stop and be quiet. The meeting evolved into 3 against 1. She was hung out to dry by this guy. I almost felt sorry for her. So.....I guess reality came crashing down on her and it was too late.
Well, its over with. I walk away knowing I did everything I could have done. I walk away with my life pretty much intact with the exception of the marriage. I walk away with the knowledge of what it takes to "affair proof and divorce proof" a marriage. I walk away with an understanding of what went wrong and why. Ultimately, I walk away a better man than I was before. My XW walks away with some equity from the house and not much else from what I can see. I feel bad for her, but I know there isnt anything I could have done to change that. Her choices were her choices alone. I hope and pray that someday she can find her way back to God, and ultimately to the person that she was before all of this. She was a beautiful soul, but no longer is.

So sorry! So glad that you can see the good things that you are leaving with and that you know in your heart you tried. Extra plus that you have learned from this which in the future help your relationships.

Gotta Run! My heart goes out to you.

WCNT -

I am sorry for you and happy for you simultaneously. I too, will be joining you in the ranks of the emancipated sometime this month. A bright future awaits you, I am sure.

One day, you will look back on all of this, shake you head slightly, and chuckle to yourself...and maybe feel a twang of pity for her and the inevitable pain she will one day experience.


TM

WCNT -

It's good to see that you have accepted this for what it is now.

I'll be there on Nov 21st. My thinking has finally evolved to where you are at also. We've done everything possible and allowed every opportunity. However, it takes two.

It's all too bad this happened but I know we will be better off than them. We've learned a great deal. What doesn't kill us make us stronger.

WCIT

I am sorry for your situation. Too bad your wife could not see what she was lossing before it was too late. I pray mine wakes up in time.

Take care of yourself. I hope on stay on the boards.

I too am sorry for the path your XW taken, but excited for the road ahead for you, WCNT.

You strength and faith have been an inspiration to many on these boards.

Peace to you.

Alph.

(((((WasCrushedNTexas)))))

You are right, things are in God's hands for both you and your wife.

God bless and continue to comfort you with His presence.

WasCrushedNTexas,

I’ve posted to you and followed you through this whole ordeal and in spite of everything that happened and the failing of your M (which I’m very sad for), you and your story is still an inspiration to many others simply because you are a man of God and have His presence and Spirit in you heart…

I hope you will stay on these boards and continue to be a blessing to others.

May God keep you close to Him and bless you with His peace and comfort which you so greatly deserve...

Hugs to you,
Suzet

Thanks to everyone for the kind words. It really means a lot to me. But, really......the support and the sage advice that came from everyone on these boards and the principles of MB, is what has helped me. No...I didnt save my marriage but I believe my healing has greatly been ramped up by the wise counsel and the support I receieved here.
I will stick around. One thing I have learned through all this, is that God will heal you quicker if you can find a way to be a blessing to others. I will strive to better this community as much this community has bettered me. Seems only right to me. I will continue to support this community with my prayers for all those that hurt as a result of the evil of divorce and infidelity. I will continue to pray specifically that God himself will wrap his loving arms around all those in need of comfort, so that they will know that they are never alone. Just as I was never alone through this ordeal.

Beautiful words…keep it up WCNT! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />