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It has been little over 3 years now since my divorce. How things change and stay the same.
The divorce: Married 7 years, WW had affair with best friend, as soon as I gave her divorce papers she moved in across the street with him.
Lots of fog, pain, agony, etc. We all know the story.
I have moved 60 miles away, new job, new house and a wonderful wife. I met my wife 15 months after the divorce. We married 10 months later in a Catholic Church with about 300 guests and had a great 10-day honeymoon in the Pacific NW.
XW and OM married at the courthouse last year and nobody knew about it. XW has gone through numerous jobs.
Until a couple of weeks ago I had had zero contact with XW. I'm attempting to get my previous marriage annulled so I can receive the sacrement of marriage with my wife. I went over to the XW's house to get some info for the annulment. They live in a 1600 sqft house built in 1998 in a nice neighborhood.
There was plywood on the windows from a hurricane that came through the month before(no other houses had plywood or damage), overgrown flower beds, uncut grass, peeling paint, etc. The house smelled bad as well. She opened the door with OM on her shirt tail and refused to give me any information. I turned around and left without confrontation.
This guy used to have the cleanest house. Everything jsut so. We all thought he was gay and he'd be at home on Queer Eye for the Straight Guy. I was shocked at the condition of his house.
This is same way my house was getting at the end of my marriage to XW.
When someone has an affair and gets into a new relationship they really don't change. It may take some time for the true colors to show through, but they eventually will.
I haven't really change, except to recognize bad relationship habits and try to avoid them as well as always trying to find the root causes for my feelings and behaviors.
I've got it good now and I don't want to screw it up. I know how rare is to be blessed with a good woman and life.
Recovered BS
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You give us newly minted BS'es hope...
Good luck to you and your wife,
WNB
43yr old FWH who has rediscovered morality
Divorced: 03 February 2006
XW: My threads say it all
"Well, I guess if a person never quit when the going got tough, they wouldn't have anything to regret for the rest of their life..."
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Well, I'm glad somebody comes and brings hope. Yeap, like you said, the real person is still there, no matter what.
Thanks to bring hope to those that are in doubt or don't believe that we will find someone else.
God needs to make more man for us girls!!
-Expect to be happy with yourself don't wait for others to do your job-
Me - 31 - I believe in God's power
H - 30 - Confussed with mediocer attempts to "talk"
Married - 04/19/00
Separated - 09/26/05
Mariano, it's who you were when you were with me, and what you had that you so much miss. Open your eyes and you'll see how wonderful it's been meant to be.
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What you saw with the house is the typical WS pigpen. They can have a house but not a home. If there's no life within, there's no life without.
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Scrum,
Thanks for the uplifting story. Somedays I don't think I will ever feel better, but you are proof it is possible.
Keith
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