I have been married 4 years. My wife is 23 and I am 24. Needless to say we married at a young age. We have no children.

I really dont know how to word this without sounding like an idiot. So I'll just come out and say it. If It sounds like I'm overeacting please dont hold back let me know...

Whenever my Wife and I go out, we're always back at home and asleep at 9pm. We work in the Radiology Dept. at very large Hospitals. So we're ussually pretty tired by then.
But whenever she goes out with co-workers she stays up all hours of the night. Just recently she stayed over at a friends house, because she was too drunk to drive.

I thought it was very resposible of her to do as such. but another side of me was really mad at her for not calling me and letting me know where she was and what she was doing.
I felt good deal of jealousy then. Was I wrong?

Am I wrong to feel jealous, that I cant have that kind of attention from her?
I feel a little neglected.

Another issue that kinda runs parrallel with this is:
I feel like my wife isnt as affectionate as when before we got married. Not in a sexual way, but in a general "Loving way"
I can harldy get hugs and kisses from her. She almost never says "I love you" anymore. She isnt as romantic anymore. I feel like our cats get more attention than I do.

Am I wrong to feel unwanted?
Is there something I can/cant do?


As I read this over they seem like stupid Newlywed problems, but they certaintly dont feel like they are. Please post your comments.

Feelings aren't wrong, so how you feel is how you feel, and nobody gets to tell you that you have to feel differently.

It sounds like your W andyou are drifting apart, and losing a bit of the old spark.

How are you doing on RC and UA time, as well as handling LB's and all that stuff?

Have you read the information in the FAQ/Q&A columns to see how it directly applies to what you're talking about?

Jaye is right about feelings.

Have you done much reading here. There is some wonderful information here.

Have you read about Emotional Needs (ENs)? Do you know what your wife's emotional needs are?

Have you read about Undivided Attention (UA)? Love Busters (LBs)? Recreational Companionship (RC)?

You might get more feedback by posting your inquiry on the Emotional Needs board.