Reposted from other room.. Newbie at this so i didnt know..
I dont know where to start. I found out recently that my H is having an affair. He is still denying it ever happened. He has been lying and with every lie, I have been catching him. As of yesterday it is supposedly over. I have so many "connections" that led me to the truth. And the main source said he text msgd her yesterday and told her it was over, to lose his number, and not to bother him anymore. (they work together but 2 different departments)and after that she txt him back saying " I would do anything for you, i love you" I was told it has been going on for a short while, maybe about the past 2 or 3 months. We have been having problems for a long time. We tried counseling but after 3 sessions he gave up. I found numbers and called them, note, uneplained new jeans and shirt, text messages etc, asked questions all over etc. My blanks to questions were being filled in. He is depressed right now. I gave him the chance to admit to it that i would forgive him and he denied it. Finally, when i received information yesterday that he was ending it, I was releived but hurt, angry and not sure what the next step would be. I wrote him a letter telling him my gut instincts and what my heart felt that i know about the affair, telling him i would like him to come to me and admit it so we can get past it together.. he has yet to say anything. I am done investigating, i had my fill. I already confronted the OW, but she denied it as well (that was the night i found out so i confronted her when they were both MIA)I printed out all the information i could on marriage builders. i dont know what to do until he comes and admits it to me. I made an appt to be checked out because we have been intimate. I feel stuck in limbo, waiting for him to admit it so we can work on getting past it. I know the truth but need to hear it from him. What can i do..? do i wait? Do i approach him again? I had a change in attitude after i gave him my letter in a positive way, because the past few weeks i have been checking up on him, contacting people asking questions etc...it's been tense and emotional. He has not mentioned anything i wrote to him in the letter yet and i dont know how to approach him without "nagging" him to talk about it. Please help.
11-10-05:
I forgot to mention our baby is due 1/06. From connections, i was told that he shared that i wrote him a letter and that i know he cheated, but we are going to get through this.
