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the fact that your MIL is involved makes my stomach turn. Why is she telling you this when she has befriended her? I don't think I would like to have my MIL as the middle man. If you guys go through the legal system she can not prevent you from being around the oc. She would have to prove what she is saying. Not only do H and I have visitation we now have custody! Where we live it was not about how the child came about and who the child is going to be around, but what was in the best interest of the child. He does have rights and never forget that. Don't let her scare you guys.

How does your mother in law justify this "friendship" to you? Is she all ok with this ow attacking you and her son? If so, why on earth is your husband not doing anything about it?

The ow can cry until ****** freezes over, she can lie and twist anything she wants. Their are laws here to protect you too. Slander? I would go after her fiercly. Lets not forget the ow who lost her child cause she was lying about the father. She deserved to lose her child for using it as a pawn. This one is on that road. The only thing she can be certain of is child support, if proven to be his. From then on, she can't say a word if the FATHER wants to have his child in his life. Just as he can't tell her that she can't have her crazy Aunt Sue around the baby, she can't say you can't be around.

Keep a log. Keep lots of documentation. If you could get your mother in law to leave you a message on tape about her plans, even better.

The ow blaming the wife for the couple choosing not to see oc is always the status quo. They will never admit that the man sees the ow and her child as a horrible reminder of a huge mistake. They never consider that the man chooses to not hurt or disrupt his family. They never see the other side of this at all. So don't worry about her blustering. Let her go off like an idiot. Let her lie about you, let her be the moron she is, and make sure you are there, when the Judge lets her have it in court! It will come sooner then you think. The judge will have her number in about 10 seconds!

And the ow wonder why husbands and their families turn their backs on them and the oc? They are not worth the drama and upheaval to the many others who are affected by the affair and resulting oc. People get hurt here, and two people are responsible for it. If a man has hurt his wife and children, and he wants to protect them from futher hurt, the oc and ow get cut out. Plain and simple. This ow is a textbook case on why that happens. OW are out to destroy. They see no value in families and many have some bizzare picture in their heads of what is really going on in the home.

They imagine the wife begging and pleading with her husband and never do they imagine the truth. It is the husband begging and pleading. The ow will say he is their for money or the kids. When in fact, who even brings that stuff up? The couple is talking about the MARRIAGE, not the family, not the house, etc. It is about the TWO OF THEM. And usually it is the man, crying and begging and pleading for his wife to stay with him. Your ow seems to think that she can say and do whatever she wants and your husband will run to her????? Is she that stupid? What she doesn't realize is how protective of you he will get. How disgusted with himself he will get when he sees what his actions have caused. Let her play her stupid games. You just do what is best for you and forget about her.

She isn't worth your thoughts.

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Hi,
What state are you in? I would not take what the this lawyer has to say without getting a second opinion. I never heard of such a law you guys are married. I would not believe this lawyer. Tou can go down to the court house and file for paternity testing.

Dawn

Just a thought, but if your doing contact than I'm assuming your kids know? OR will know? If the lawyer suggests you don't go, how bout your kids? They deserve to know there siblings. Surely she won't start anything in front of kids right?

I just read this other post. If you guys are going to have contact, then eventually she has to accept that your apart of your husband's family and therefore will have contact with the child. How old is the child?

And yes, you can file for DNA testing and pettition for it yourself. If you can't afford an attorney for that, that part is so simple. Go to your self help center either online, or at the court house and you can get the forms and directions to file. Really it's easier than you think. Just a pain.

Well, I really don't know what attorney you went to, but its pure total bullshyt!!! Trust me YOU and H can have this different. This is HIS child and DNA PROVES it, then he has a right to this child as much as she does. As far as YOU being around, well your M, you aren't going anywhere. Hand in there. Get the DNA set up. First step. ANd IF she went to the JC's office, they will be sending you something. They HAVE to contact the father, or who she is trying to get support from. Now when they arrange the DNA test and IF its together with her, they can ask you not to be present. They can't tell you not to drive him there and wait in the car. Or if its at court, you can wait outside. Its not like she didn't know you exsisted right??? I'm not sure I would talk or consult another attorney. Have you looked up things on fathers rights in TN. ?? Do and get as much research on the subject as you can. And DON'T worry about OW and her treats and her actions. Just keep VERY good records!!! At the point it is now, the courts will see why your H hasn't done any visitations with this child. Its not right for someone they CAN'T see their child just because she doesn't "like" you. And if she is telling people statments about YOU that are not true, there are laws for that too!! DO NOT LET THIS WOMAN RUN YOUR M OR YOUR LIFE!!!! Take your control of your family and live your life and do this though an attorney. I hope your H is learning a lesson??
Sunny

Hello,
I am not sure but I think that Stacia_lee lives in TN and now they have full custody of OC becasue of the stuff that ex-OW pulled. In the beginning OW did not want her around OC but the judge said they are married so deal with it.

Dawn

Betrayed, i noticed you deleted your posts. Hope everything is ok for you. we are all here for you if you need us.

I guess I am a little worried that the ow in my case will see these and figure out it is me. I do not want to mess anything up when it comes to the oc.

I feel I need to watch everything I do.

Thank You for caring!!