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My husband has been deployed to Iraq for 14 mos now. He is on his way home!!! He will be back in my arms again in 12 1/2 hrs!! I am so excited and scared all in one! I don't think I will be able to sleep tonight! I have posters, banners, ribbons, and flags to add to my collection already displayed! I plan to have them from the entrance of our neighborhood all the way to the house, everyone will know he is home! Isn't it ironic he will be coming home on Veterans Day! I pray that our troops continue to return home safe to their familes and into the arms of the ones that love them! Military spouses out there stay strong they will be home soon!!


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Thank you to you and your DH for your sacrifice , enjoy the homecoming!!


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Congrats! I know you are so excited. This is going to be a new start and a chance to really put that recovery into action.

God Bless

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Soldier's Wife-
I just want to caution you not to build a fantasy reunion in your head, ok? Even our men & women coming back from Iraq without any extra emotional baggage are having trouble adjusting.
Please don't expect any specific reactions from your H. That way you can't be disappointed or hurt if he responds differantly.

I've dealt with overseas tours and homecomings, too and the ones that don't measure up to what I hoped for still bother me.

I am very happy that you will be with him and that he is safe.

--from a Navy wife

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Congratulations on what will be one of the greatest Veteran's Days you'll ever have!

Having "been there, done that", and knowing the excitement you're feeling right now, I would offer only one piece of advice...no expectations. Disengage your head for a while and let your Giver go nuts for a day or two, but don't expect him to have much to give back until he's been back in a NORMAL routine (going to work, coming home, getting used to you and the kids again) for at least a few days. OK?

ENJOY this wonderful day!!!!!!

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That is so great im so excited for you! I bet your nervous. I hope everything goes well with you two and now you can start a real recovery with both of you being home! Its so great to see you so happy! I'll be with you in about 5-6wks Take Care!


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Hubby is home everything is great! We are having a wonderful time. Trying to take things slow. Everything is has been a blurr! We had the news there for his coming home! That was embarassing! Well I only had a brief second to say hi. Thank you all. I am trying to take your advice and just let things happen. And not to expect to much for a good while. Talk to you guys soon. SW


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Congratulations!

I remember how nice it was to finally have your spouse back after a long deployment.

I'm just going to echo the others'. Take it slow. Homecoming can bring stress onto both of you as you readjust to being together.

Someone once told me to expect the returning solider to feel like a guest and as if they are out of place after a few days. She also told me I would have to learn to 'give up' some of the power you have to take over when your spouse is deployed. Little things would trigger his feeling out of place (like not being sure where the cereal was kept because I had moved things around while he was gone) and my 'head-of-household' replacement issues (like having him ask about the bills or repairs around the house).

Just being aware of some of the issues made it so much easier to recognize and deal with.

Enjoy your husband and thank you for your sacrafice!!

Congratulations again:)

FIM


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What a happy day! Congratulations.

Let him sleep...I know he is tired. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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