Hello,

Me and the W have been through a ****** of a year. Just finished trial and my W is not happy. Her lawyer got bashed really bad and her entire life with my 3 kids is not looking pretty. I tried so hard to settle fairly but she didn't want to hear it. All she wanted to do was prove wrong doing on my part and convince me to give her everything.

This has been killing me for a year but there is little I can do. She has been spreading vicious lies about me to everyone around her, including my kids.

I will be forced to take her back to family court because she's refusing all visitation now. Yes, we have a decree. Worst yet, my 6-year old daughter is being told horrible lies about me and everyone in my family. I love her so much but can't see her until we go back.

She withheld them last year through the holidays and will probably do the same again. Last Christmas I spent with them was in 2003. I'm heartbroken but determined not to let this get me too far down. This is a nightmare.

Please tell me it will be alright. Even though I know it will. My son has Autism, he is 8, my daughter is 6 and my baby is 18 months. She hardly knows me.

I live 60 miles from everyone because I can't afford to move back to their location. If I get one of the homes, I will be able to move back and have them every other weekend. I've yet to spend an overnight. I just know she won't give them up so easily. How can a mother deny her kids their father like this? A father who has done nothing but love and support them?

She is trying hard to break me but it's not working too well for her. I really wish we could have worked this out. I sure didn't want this but she went full steam ahead. Everything that came out of her lawyers mouth was absolutely untrue and now she has no other weapon but the kids. It's gonna be a long road.

I'd love to hear from anyone in this situation. Next week, I will need to file a motion of contempt over the visitation. Don't want to. But I have to for my kids. I refuse to allow them to grow up without me. They will understand one day I know.

Thanks for listening.

Steve

When you say her entire life with your 3 kids is not looking pretty, what you are saying is that your children's lives are not looking pretty. That is very sad for me to hear.

I don't know your story, but hope that you will be taking care of your children.

Yes believer, that's what saddens me. I am completely supporting all of them. My W has spent all of our money, burdened us with debt, and keeps my kids from me, just to cause more hurt.

She's the type that will go down with the ship if she doesn't get her way. It's so dangerous when all she had to do was talk to me and work it our fairly.

Of course, financial support is not an issue for me but it has been for her. When I give her checks, she holds them and accuses me of not paying! I now have to direct deposit the money into her account. Now I'm accused of bank fraud!

My story is long and emotional. I'm at a point where I just need to move on and get back in my children's lives. It just hurts so much for myself and my kids. Thanks for writing.

Steve

I am praying.

Get a bulldog attorney. Your WW needs to see you being the good dad with or without her!

Move back..come heck or high water move back!

Get the kids!

And make sure the children are seeing their mom, but not living in an immoral lifestyle with her either.

It's time to don the cape of superdad! You can do it!

GEt the attorney. Show WW you're not doing this against her, it is for the kids. Document all bank transactions via your bank...it will show she's cashed your payments, etc.

Show how you dated the checks you wrote her...how she's held them...and literally held the checks "hostage" and then tried to cash all at once to make them bounce...she's kinda not nice right now btw.

Just get the proof.

I know it feels overwhelming.

I really did have a wS who did not pay us for six months. He also allowed his vehicle (according to sep papers it was his responsibility...legal one) repo'd...was in my name! And ruined my finances...didn't pay us for six months...and I'd only been back working (had been a sahm)2 mos fulltime so no back savings for me or son.

Just got an attorney and we went to court. Took 2 times...and two more...but for different reasons after that...to get him to realize that he fought the law...but the law won!

Just be superdad and get the superattorney!

We're praying for reconciliation with you and the kids...it'd be nice if WW came along too...but for now, focus on the kids!

Don't let your crazy WW ruin your life. I've heard enough of this crap for a lifetime. Who gives a crap what she thinks anymore.

I'm sick for you and for all the other nice guys and gals who have to put up with this B.S.

Go kick some a**.