my husband works interstate. i have a 7 year old son from a previous marriage and we have lived with my new husband previous to this current living arrangement.
about a month ago my husband had an affair - mostly email, a walk in the park and some phone calls he says, but i suspect it was more than that. the emails i found were pretty full on - he was professing his love for her and saying how he was obsessed with her etc. when i discovered it he said it was not about her but about how he was feeling.
we had struggled through the family court together fighting for custody of my son. ironically now that we are finally through all of that and we look like we might be ablet to start relaxing and having fun - this happens.
i am trying to meet his needs but had an angry outburst last weekend when he was here because he was protecting the other woman's identity.
he has promised honesty and that he won't do anything to do further damage but last night on the phone he was saying that most things are pointing to us breaking up right now. the hard part is meeting his needs from a distance. he finds my phone calls annoying as he is very busy.
i am going down to be with him this coming weekend again and my son is going to his father for the weekend, so i will have another chance then to meet needs.
my husband says he does not like the family life and the fact that i don't earn big money annoys him too. he definitely finds me very attractive and we have great sex (which we are still doing when we see each other) but he feels we've never had the recreational fun together. i think its because of my son being around and also because my husband has to pay for things it kind of destroys the fun.
how can i fix this???????

How long have you been married? It is sad to me that your new husband doesn't enjoy being around your son, and looks at paying for him as a burden. When he married you, he should have known it was a package deal.