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He needs to get some therapy. Really, he can't hold any previous relationship against you especially since he had prior full disclosure. And to have a revenge affair? Please. I hope he gets some help.

soooohurt, it's an excuse for him to behave in whatever manner he WANTS to behave, including adultery.

"....from THIS DAY forward...." Part of most wedding vows. It's a declaration by both that the "past stays in the past" and that from "this day forward" we chose fidelity to each other exlusively and WILL NOT hold past events against each other. For him to marry you and to hold your past as a "weapon" to justify any behavior on his part IS, itself, marital unfaithfulness and a direct violation of the promises that are inherent in "I forgive you."

Either way, HE has been the unfaithful one, not you.

It is also another reason why we are admonished to "not be unevenly yoked."

You list your "status" as "working on recovery," but I don't see it in what you've posted. Recovery takes TWO people and willing surrender....did I miss something in your post?

God bless.