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Wife said move back home.Then she said I want you to know
the only reason I am doing this is for our son and for finacal reason.You moving back home is what is best for
my son,I will never be able to trust you again.Then she hung up.
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It means she remains deeply hurt by your choice to have an affair ... and she feels trapped.
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time to step up to the plate move home get yourself in counseling be an open book charm her socks off.. and prove her wrong... maybe for the first time... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> ARK
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It's an open door to prove yourself. I am always of the belief you never know how God is working and this may be a chance to move home and work on your marriage, but's it's also a change for failure if you don't put into practice things to prevent a reoccurrance of an affair. Make sure you get into counseling, make sure you start working on the Marriage Builder principles, and work towards winning your wife back.
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Take this as a great opportunity to prove yourself and win your family back.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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If you love your wife and want to save you family take her back in. Get MC and give it a try. Open and honest. If you were wrong, accept it and learn what happened and change it so it will never happen again. DO NOT dwell on the past. Work on the FUTURE... No blame games or traps. Future...
I don't know if you have studied any of the MB docs or site. Set up an appointment to meet with Steve Harley of marriage builders. At least for a starting point for you two.
She probably really wants to come home for real. She just needs you to reach out to her and let her know you want her and are willing to work on your marriage.
Of course she is hurt. No she does not want to beg you so she is using other angle to come home.
Let me tell you. I would fly higher than a the space shuttle, and orbit the planet several times if my wife wanted to come home to work on our marriage. She is the one who is having the affair....
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Can you get her to come here?
Both of you will need to understand all of this...and both need the tools to help repair this and start a new marriage together.
You are getting an opportunity here. Dont blow it.
In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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Your wife is giving you a chance to make life what it should be for your family.
Take it and work your butt of to show her you want this marriage and her.
Do you have any idea how many of us would love to have this chance. Do it now...... Don't let this opportunity pass you by.....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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