I finally got up the nerve to have a sincere and frank discussion with my best friend to which she said the same thing the guy did, that it was just for fun, but then she showed me the text messages between the two of them last night and here is what I remember:

Her: Hangovers suck, sorry my other friends didn't show up at the bar, but they went to the wrong one.

Him: Sorry about your hangover. Well things happen, everyone had a blast, you did too by the looks of it.

Her: Did my kissing you on the neck bother you? If so I apologize.

Him: No it didn't bother me at all, you seemed to really enjoy yourself. Good Drinks!

Her: I was hammered, but that's what happens when you have drinks before you arrive at the bar. My [censored] is sore because (her husband's best friends name here) grabbed my [censored]. I have a bruise!

Him: Hah! Well at least you have something to remember him by, he was really drunk too and feeling good. Besides you like it rough!

Her: How would you know if I like it rough?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Him: I have a sense about these things. Do you deny it?

Her: No I don't. Do you like it rough? LOL

Him: It has it's place. I prefer slow easy exploration. I guess it depends on the mood.

Her: I prefer passionate sensual interludes instead of rough actions, but if I'm really into them and I'm very turned on I like to be ravished.

Him: Sounds about right. Do you like to put on a show for your lover?

Her: Yes I do. I like to have extended amounts of foreplay. I like to build the excitement as to heighten arousal and climax. Do you like a show?

Him: I like to receive a show, but I'm not an entertainer in that way. I like to use words to create anticipation and spark desire.

Her: Oh now there is something we have in common. I think articulate sensual wording can lead to a lot of passionate lovemaking.

Him: Yes. I like to say what I'm going to do and how it is going to drive them wild.

There you have it. Just friendly conversation. If he was just trying to be her friend only and harmless flirting, this does not look like harmless flirting to me. It looks as though to me that he is trying to find out what she likes in bed and how she is in bed. *sigh* I'm not sure what to do. This is becoming intolerable even for me to sit back and watch. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

I notice a lot of people looking at this thread but no replies, anyone? I really want to help my friend out. I don't want to see such a good marriage go away and for her to lose everything. So anything would help at this point.

Friends don't talk like that. Show that little dialogue to all interested parties. NO ONE will think it is appropriate.

I think the "good marriage" that's happening right now needs to go away and be replaced by a really good marriage.

Go to general Questions II if you want more response.

Hello,

I think it is sad that she shows such disrespect for her husband and her marriage. The conversation indicates that they are both on the make and it will be just a matter of time before they cross the line. If she feels it is such harmless fun then how about showing this message to her husband? Again unless the husband is informed of what is going on then there really is little you can do.

Exposure to her husband for a start. I have a pretty low tolerance for people who hide affairs their "friends" are involved in.

TM,

If she really feels it is OK for her to be doing this, ask her if she would like her husband to be aware of it. What I mean is, if it isn't wrong, would she do it if he knew and could read it.

She is engaging in very dangerous, unhealthy behavior. Nothing good will come of this.