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I just wanted to say how stupid I feel for thinking we were in recovery.. pls see General Questions,under "Found out last night my H is still cheating"
i feel like such an idiot!
Me-29, Husband-28
We have one son together - 10 mo. old
He has 3 children from a previous marriage, ages 11, 9, 6 yrs old.
3nd DDay 11/10/05- another Email A. H denied it being EA or PA..just sexual in nature with an ex fling.
My 3rd marriage, His 2nd
**REALLY want to the tools to make this ONE work**
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I will try to read/post more as I have to get to work, but just wanted to say that I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOO sorry. Anyone who has never experienced a relapse just does NOT know what they are missing. It is incredibly painful. I just wanted to let you know that we are living proof that a recovery IS possible after such events, under the right circumstances.
I felt like such a fool as well, this time of year last year, thinking we were in recovery, him cheating for 2 months right under my nose. Even got the "have to work late" line, and believed it. What a fool, I think now. But you know what? I trusted him again (at the time). There is nothing wrong with having a loving, trusting spirit and wanting to believe the best about those we love. That trust was trampled on and abused. That was very very wrong of him.
BW 43 me
FWH 39
M 1992; DD 18. 13
OC 8-05 - no contact
In recovery 8 years
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Hi,
(((((((HUGSS)))))))))
Dawn
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i have a friend whose husband had a sexual addiction which has a much different form of treatment .....you might want to research sexual addiction on the internet. my friends husband never knew what was wrong w/himself and was so lost. he was an obgyn. go figure. my heart goes out to you. everyone here's worst nightmare. how would you ever know when to believe??? when to trust?>??
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart." Helen Keller
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I just read "Out of the Shadows" by Patrick Carnes, the guru of sexual addiction literature out there. Would recommend it if you are thinking H has a sexual addiction - it will give you some insight into the mind of an addict.
Married 10 years
Three Children: Son(8),Daughter(6),Daughter(3)
DDay - May 6, 2004
False Recovery Begins - June 1, 2004
OW Pregnancy Revealed - June 27, 2004
False Recovery #2 Begins - August 30, 2004
OC born Feb. 25, 2005
Have chosen to have C
DDay AGAIN -- June 10,2005 - Found out contact w/OW had continued from Sept-Feb
Recovery Begins (again - let's hope it is real this time) July, 2005
C w/OC on indefinite hold while M is worked on
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