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To be clear, is the A continuing or is he in NC with OW?
Plan A and Plan B are for BS whose WS are still having affairs. Individual counseling is for WS time also.
Recovery is a whole different ballgame. Plan A and Plan B have no place in recovery. Marriage counseling is for recovery time.
You need to be sure where you are at, in the midst of an affair (your WH) or in recovery before you go on here.
BW 43 me
FWH 39
M 1992; DD 18. 13
OC 8-05 - no contact
In recovery 8 years
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You're right. My husband seems to want to make the effort, then falls back into old habits. It's very much a terrible roller coaster right now.
He is no longer in the affair. It has been over for 2-1/2 years physically & contact has been over since March of this year (she kept contacting him).
BS (me) 40 FWH 39
Married: 2/14/99
Together: 16 years
DD 6, DS 4, DD 3, DD 2, DS 2
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When the affair ended, was he willing to "do anything to save the marriage" or did he just come home and expect everything to be forgotten? How much leverage do you have to get him to consider MB concepts?
BW 43 me
FWH 39
M 1992; DD 18. 13
OC 8-05 - no contact
In recovery 8 years
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