We just got word that our brigade is leaving Iraq on the 26th of Decemeber and will all be home on Jan. 19th. Finally we got a set date. So i got alot of things to get done! I am very excited about this day. It will be 7 months since I've seen him and since i found out about his ONS. I just cant wait, its been a long rough year and im sure another rough year ahead of me. I got alot of things to do before he comes home and getting past the holidays is one of them! It'll be hard with him being gone but i'll do fine. I am just so excited but i dont wanna overwhelm him in everything. He even told me that he will take the kids for the weekend so i can go to a spa! thats never happened before! He's changing so much and its for the good!

Wow, you cna start counting days. I know you must be so excited. You two have a great opportunity of a new start together. Watch those after Christmas at VIctoria's Secret for something wonderful to wear, too. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
You are doing a great.
blessings!

Good news for you. I am so happy for you and the children.Now let me tell you something. My son was gone for a year. When he came back he ws different for awhile. very intense. Edgy, jumpy if we drove by a dead animal on the road. I let him do what he wanted. He was in touch with his buddies for awhile. But after living in the tents with them for so long wanted to have alot of space. Its like they want to see everyone they love - to know we are Ok. But they need their space. It takes awhile for them to come to grips with what has happened. He is fine now after a couple of months. But do not pressure him in anyway. Just enjoy looking at him and be gasld he is unhurt. You will be on my mind.

Thanks realtor for the advice. I know its going to be hard for him to be back home. When he was home on his leave ( A happened then) we were driving down the highway and they were doing roadwork and he closed his eyes and almost drove off the road! I said hunny what are you doing he goes whoops usually i have glasses on and im not used to having a wind shield to protect my eyes. Even when we drove by an empty box he would duck, just something have come to adjust with over there. I am so looking forward to our new life together. He is excited to his me and his kids. He cant wait to see our daughter he left when she was 20 days old and she'll be 7 months when he comes home. He cries on the phone when he hears her "talk" or "coo" i know its hard and I am going to do my best to help him through this. Our company and his unit have mandatory consueling for both of us and i think that is great.
MF,
Thanks, I hope everything is going great with you and your H. Im sure it is. Thanks for the postive feedback, we are doing great and this is a new start when he comes home! I cant wait!!! About 50-60 more days lol! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

My son said the counseling was a joke. So take that for what is worth. They all sat in one room and some guy read stuff to them. It was not individual which I believe they need as each of us has different issues.

Thanks realtor for that info! I dont wanna get to graphic here but my H has been having serious issues lately with having to kill an Iraqi. I cant imagine what he is going through but he tells me he dreams about it happening all the time. I know each of the soliders have their own issues. The army needs to take care of that. My H told me the last time i talked to him last week that his one sgt is thinking about sending him to a psychtrist bc of the way he has been acting and the things he has been saying. I told him to just hold on you'll be home soon and we can talk this out, i'll help him out as best as i can. I dont know if it will help but i've always listened to him even before i found out about the A. He means everything to me and i wanna do the best i can and if its giving him some space for when he comes home then i'll do that if its what he wants/needs.

Just a little FYI but, the counseling the Army gives is a joke but, Army One Source can set you up with 6 free sessions of counseling. That can be 6 per issue. So you can have 6 for you 6 for him and 6 for both of you. Then you can call back in and get it extended if needed. There is no cost to you and it is with a civilian counselor. The VA also does some counseling I believe it is just for the solider though and again you are back to military counseling. Good luck! It is really hard. I knew that it was going to be but, I am having a harder time then I ever thought I would. SW

SW,

Thanks for the advice! We'll see how things go. What do u mean by its hard with him being home and having to deal with what he has gone through? Just wondering. I bet tho even though its hard its still nice to have him home and knowing he is safe! Take Care

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It is very nice having him home and knowing that he is safe! It is just hard adjusting back to being married, sharing the authority he is having a hard time not just barking orders at our son. He never does it intentional it just slips every now and then. He sees a lot of things that he would do differently then the way I have and wants everything changed to the way he wants it done. He is use to having alone time and not trying (I know you can understand this one) being able to think, cook, take care of kids, wonder if the laundry been changed over and still not burn dinner. Not that he is doing all of this just that we are able to multi task and not be overwhelmed when the litle one is running through the house screaming. He seems to be really nervous and stressed alot which in return I become stressed. Things are still really good don't get me wrong. It is just going to take a little while to get use to having him home. I know that sounds crazy I have been counting days for as long as I can remeber of when he will be home. But, now that he is here it is taking a lot of getting use to. SW

SW,

I gotcha now! Even when my FWH was home on his leave having him around was hard. Just so used to doing everything alone cleaning, cooking, laundry and takin care of the kids and then all of a sudden he is back for 2wks tryin to help. When he was home he drove everywhere i dont think i drove once! When i get home its gunna be great to think that there is going to be him on the other side of me and having a bed to share with someone. It'll be really nice, I cant wait. I've told him that our son hasnt been behaving to bad and he'll even give me orders over the phone LOL Hes just a lil boy he doesnt understand where daddy is. Im sure you kid's enjoy having him home! I just never thought that this time would come where he'd be home for good, im glad the yr went by fast. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />