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Ya know Kim,
I have been wondering the same thing about myself. I know who I am. I am a good person; faithful, honest, loyal, giving and loving.

So why doesn't he see that? I do not know. I think thier brain gets so fooged up they look for love in all the wrong places.

You are wonderful too. I pray one day both of our H's will wake up.

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Well speaking as an Okie myself, I would love to converse with Ya'll on this subject but I'm FIXING to run to the store.... Ya'll have a great evening .......

Chin Up Kim darling all will look better in the light of the day......


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Truthfully, I think you are a pretty "bad" person to be around, and I pretty much can't stand you...so, who knows....?

Lem


Yeah, & I can't stand you either. Always coming on here spouting off and you think you know everything. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

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Come on girl.....it is ok, another storm coming,, you'll weather this one as you have the others..


Just kidding! I know I'll get through it. I'm feeling better already & now I feel awfully silly for my cryfest/pity party earlier. Sometimes it just hits you smack in the face. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

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All that crow ruint his brain!


Yeah, wonder if he ate all the leftovers?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
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lolol <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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How 'bout the word "tumped"?

Like I'm about to "tump" over the basket. Or the bike is "tumping" over.

That could just be a Georgia word.....

And I'm "fixing" to go to bed 'cause I've been staying up way too late lately!!

Thanks VTY and Hurting. We are just good people caught up with a WS that made a bad choice. Seems like I'm having too many days lately where I'm having to say 'things will look better tomorrow.' I'm just not focusing on me enough.

MB's hugs going out to you all - Even to LemonMan!!

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2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
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BTW - I'd love to get ML & LM in the same room together. I think I would laugh non-stop!!

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2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
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BTW - I'd love to get ML & LM in the same room together. I think I would laugh non-stop!!

Kim

Could never happen......I don't associate with her "kind".......

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Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.

I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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BTW - I'd love to get ML & LM in the same room together. I think I would laugh non-stop!!

Kim

Could never happen......I don't associate with her "kind".......

Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

He knows better than to mess with TEXAS!!! Silly yankee....... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />


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Darn. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />


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Lord help LemonMan when Justuss sees he is trash talkin' Texas!!! Hope he doesn't get banned! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Kim, the title to the thread says "am I really that awful?" God does not think you are awful at all, he loves His Kim.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Kim

You are a treasure, and a man would have to be blind not to see that.

Your H is currently blind, because he can't see past that Virtual Reality Helmet plonked on his head.

Your attributes deserve to be appreciated; you are geared to look for that appreciation from your H; your H is looking for a dream and can't see you. Of course you feel lost.

You will get through this.

TA


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Am I that bad of a person to be around??

Kim:

Truthfully, I think you are a pretty "bad" person to be around, and I pretty much can't stand you...so, who knows....? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Come on girl.....it is ok, another storm coming,, you'll weather this one as you have the others.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Kim,

Weren't u one of those beautiful ladies that went to dinner in GA? BTW, I never got to see the rest of 'dem pixes..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


Also, w/friends like Mel and LM there...... I think you are not only beautiful u r one well protected lady. Brains and beauty. What a combination!!! The OW doesn't deserve to stand in your shadow.

But we all need t/b awful to the WS and OP. We r the enemy of the A, right? So let 'em babble, then go have some fun! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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Kim,

It doesn't matter if you are awful or not. if he thinks you are, he should have told you or left. However awful you might be is no excuse for him to treat you that way. (that doesn't mean I think you are awful btw).

I'm sure he will be thinking hard at christmas. What they do hurts themselves as much as us, they just don't find out straight away.

Keep it going, one day ata time.


I don't get all this texan / yankee stuff, you all look and sound the bloody same from down here in the southern hemisphere.

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ML, Orchid, TA & Getting There -

Thank you all for your posts. I read them today while as at work. They made my day.

Today is a better day. I am worthy and I know I have His love.


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Your attributes deserve to be appreciated; you are geared to look for that appreciation from your H; your H is looking for a dream and can't see you. Of course you feel lost.


It's funny, I never based my worth on my H until all of this happened. I have always been independent & it's weird to be thinking that way now.....I am a person without WH.

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Weren't u one of those beautiful ladies that went to dinner in GA? BTW, I never got to see the rest of 'dem pixes.....


Also, w/friends like Mel and LM there...... I think you are not only beautiful u r one well protected lady. Brains and beauty. What a combination!!! The OW doesn't deserve to stand in your shadow.

But we all need t/b awful to the WS and OP. We r the enemy of the A, right? So let 'em babble, then go have some fun!


Yep, I was one of the GA gals....I know AD has pictures, but don't know if he'll post them ---

I feel so lucky to have the support of everyone here - ML & LM have been wonderful!

Thank you Orchid for your kind words! I will find me some fun!!!

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It doesn't matter if you are awful or not. if he thinks you are, he should have told you or left. However awful you might be is no excuse for him to treat you that way. (that doesn't mean I think you are awful btw).


So true. He should have just left instead of crossing the line like that.

Kim


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2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
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Also, w/friends like Mel and LM there...... I think you are not only beautiful u r one well protected lady. Brains and beauty. What a combination!!!

Orchid:

Nice post.....I understand the brains and beauty part....what about Mel Lane? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.

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Nice post.....I understand the brains and beauty part....what about Mel Lane? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

click here, big boy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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Nice post.....I understand the brains and beauty part....what about Mel Lane? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

click here, big boy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Fair enough....and well deserved... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

When you see a shot you gots to take it.....

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Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.

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You so enjoyed that, didn't you?? lol


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Fair enough....and well deserved...

When you see a shot you gots to take it.....

Lem

You so enjoyed that, didn't you?? lol


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D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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