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I’m trying to come up with what to give her for Christmas. She has moved out and is seeing OM. She will be in town. Steve Harley coaches me to pace myself and be very gentle with her. I need to tame her in a sense.
I’d give her anything, she is my wife, and I can’t get her just a little gift. What would be appropriate, tasteful, affectionate, meeting her needs? A little humour and lightness would not be bad.
For the ladies, do you have a suggestion?
For the men, what would you do?
BS44 XW33 0kids M6“01
DDay8“05 Plan A 8“05 S Harley
XW preg OM due 5“08
D 4"08
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can i be sarcastic just a bit.... i will think of something serious later.. but the first thing that came to my mind is this:
Your marriage certificate in a frame wrapped up with a big red bow along with a wedding picture of the two of you and a recent photo of the two of you as well, with a love letter from you.
WH (34)
Me (30)
Married 2002
Together for 7yrs.
HA Starting of inves.10/24/05
11-09-05: H wont admit though he knows i know
11-18-05: Confrontation, H admitted A.
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Thanks Babyangel
That is sarcastic and a LB. It is very much the type of thing I would of done in the past, and even get her to open it in front of her family.
No, more in the line of a camera with a card, a computer, but this is guy stuff I think…
BS44 XW33 0kids M6“01
DDay8“05 Plan A 8“05 S Harley
XW preg OM due 5“08
D 4"08
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If you feel you MUST give her something, how about a bottle of her favorite scent. You know that the sense of smell triggers more emotions than any of our other senses??
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Good idea mebutonlybetter. Scents do trigger memory. How about adding another gift that will spark nostaligia of past years. How about her favorite food, freshly cooked in decorative container? How about a beautiful sweater, that just happens to have your cologne scent on it?
*(Mebutonlybetter, I am so happy to see you back, lets start a new thread so I can find out what is going on in your life since we last talked.)
In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.
Me, betrayed wife 46
Former Wandering Husband, 51 E/A 2005
28 years of marriage
DD 26, DS 24
O/W aka, Rat 29, A-D Assisted Living
Discovery 8-20-05 Recovery ongoing.
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