I talked to xws this morning, he is on his way home after spending 9 days with his best friend and family. He sounded very happy, and was telling me about who he ran into and other small things.

He will be missing our grandson's birthday celebration today.

We got my grandson the dvd, Madagascar, and then we are taking him and his brother to see "Disney on ice, Finding Nemo."

We are trying to be creative with birthday gifts and decided that spending time together having fun is the best gift we could give our grandsons. Toys break, memories are forever.

I am a little nervous about xws coming home. I know a week is not a long time, but for me, still very fragile from the recent EA, a week seems like an eternity.

I was reading surving an affair, and it mentions how the w/s would feel like they were in love one moment, then out of love the next day. This would cycle on and off. Dr. Harley said this is normal while we are building up or lovebanks. We score EN points which gives us the feelings of love, but it is not enough to sustain those feelings. We have to keep building up those EN points until our bank is full and then the feelings will be stabilized.

My husband said he is going to go pheasant hunting with ds when he gets home.

I spoke up and said, I was hoping you would spend Monday with me, I have to go back to school Tuesday.

I handled myself beautifully considering before I would have LB'd and had an angry outburst of him being away for over a week doing what HE wanted, and then he comes back to go hunting with ds. Fuming...............

I spoke without getting angry, and he surprisingly said sure.

Baby steps, learning to respond without anger is a new process for me, but I am learning.