today i once again to set up my boundary to tell ww that she should show me that she will work on our marriage by doing no contact with this op, she told me that i simply surmise it. There is no really affair at all.
I told her that she is not serious about our marriage, after hearing my saying so, ww is very angry and put on clothe and want to leave house, i said to her, 'what will you do'? she said she want to take a walk outside, i know she would meet this guy since i set up my boundary to irriate her for sure.
so i told her :' if you now go out , i will lock you outside and pack up your stuffs in front of door to wait for the police to send her home.' she told me i m sick.
i really do not know to respond her .
now she stayed at home. this is my first time to show her this,i just want her know i can not let her walk over me any longer.

She is trying to make you think you are crazy. They all do that. Don't listen to her. Good job on setting up boundaries. I think it is very important for a man to let his wife know that he will not tolerate her living in the home and disrespecting him.

Setting boundaries is good and has it's place...
...but...

...is there any chance you'll start on a Plan A?

Jim

Are you working the MB program friend?

Start from scratch. Let's work plan A first!

And yes, a WS will make you try to think that 1)you never heard what you heard 2)you never saw what you saw 3)that they are NOT having an affair and 4)that your snooping is your problem and that it is destroying trust

these are highlights from the not so well known unpublished WS handbook!