Hi all!!!!


I took a break from posting to allow my best friend and her husband to have some breathing room and get advice. I am here to give everyone an update and to say a few things to one person in particular on this board.

First the update. My best friend called me out of the blue yesterday and asked if I would meet her for coffee. She apologized and said that she was irrational and that she is thankful for what I did because her judgement was seriously impaired and clouded. We had our coffee and laughed and it was like old times.

Her husband came with her, they were holding hands and at one point he left the coffee shop to go next door and he bought her a rose. It was very sweet. We are having an outing this coming up weekend. I am very thankful for the advice I received on this board and happy that I have my friend back.

Now to Owl. While I think you're a nice person and you have some friendly advice, I do not appreciate that you went over to LS and did what you did. That forum is full of bashers and racketeering on people's bad fortune. I know because I use to post there a long time ago and stopped posting because of it. I don't appreciate that you went over there to create chaos on her thread that she posted. Her thread was about another friend of ours doing somewhat the exact same thing that she did, you didn't need to piggyback on her thread to try and call her out. There was no real reason for that and I am sorry to say that I don't appreciate your candor. Thankyou for advice though and otherwise I think you're a good person.

For the others my best friend is reluctant to post here because of what happened on LS. With people running over there and jumping on the bandwagon posting things in a very ugly light why should anyone want to post here. Someone named SmileyD did the same thing as Owl, only in a very immature manner. This board has hepled a lot and I am grateful as well as my best friend's husband who should come on in a few days to give you more of a detailed update. Thankyou everyone <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

That's great news Tranquil.I sincerely hope your friend and DC are on their way to a better marriage.I for one am very hopeful!

I am glad too that you have your friend back.She is lucky that you cared enough to get involved when you could have just looked the other way as some other's so.Good for you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

O

Hi Tranquil Moon. You did a wonderful thing here. I hope you find happiness yourself some day. I only wish someone had the courage to let me know when my wife was running around with the OM. It could have helped save so much misery. You knew and you put an end to it. God Bless you.

Glad everything worked out, Tranquil. Please don't think too harshly of Owl. Sometimes a strongly worded statement like his can be like a bucket of ice water to the face. Owl's good people and sometimes tough love is the most effective tool one can use. If I'm reading the times correctly, it wasn't too long after his post that your friend called DCF in tears. Maybe she read that post and it shocked her into realizing something really and truly was wrong with what she was doing??? With respect, that thread was also talking a lot about her and her relationship with that man and she was down playing a lot of the information. Most of it didn't dovetail with the message traffic you saw that last night. Anyway, alls well that ends well. It looks like she and DCF are making the right moves now. I'm a sucker for a happy ending. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hey Longhorn,

No she never read the post that Owl did on LS. Her husband did though and immediately advised her to stop posting there. They attack too much over there and use nothing but immaturity and I do not believe that that board is helpful at all. I told her not to post there a long time ago. I tried that board and they did nothing but judge and didn't offer up any keen advice on what to do. So I stopped.

I like this board a lot better. I know that they are going away for a full weekend to San Antonio and that trip was provided by DCF's company as a way of helping them get back on the right track. His company is good people.

I respect Owl, but I don't respect that he went over on LS and did that. Knowing that those people over there are detrimental to one's relationship health and they browbeat at the drop of a hat. All the same I respect him. I am so glad that this has all had a great ending. I am glad to have done what I did. I wouldn't change it. It helped.

No disrespect to anyone but I didn't post to the original thread because it seemed suspicious to be written in third person, etc. However, I am glad that everything has seemed to work out for your friend or whomever was involved.

I have been around for a while but have not heard a reference to LS that is mentioned in this post. I have seen Gloryb but they quickly kicked me off of that site as my views obviously differ from most there. Could someone clue me into what LS is? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

NT,

It's LoveShack.org

I have been reading over there recently and I don't like it.I feel safer here.

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DCF and wife was here in San Antone this weekend? Darn, I'd have bought 'em a beer down on the Riverwalk if I'd known. Gee! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hey Longhorn,

No they will be in San Antonio on the third weekend of December.

Yes LS is a very mean and open hostile forum. Which is why I never posted there again. It seems to be full of very hostile people with no real empathy as to why actions happened or anything else. I feel safer posting here on MB as well. This forum is real good without the immature attacks.

TM-
Well, I truly am sorry if you feel I've made matters worse for your friend or DCF or yourself for that matter.

The intent of my post WAS tough love...I actually had been reading those posts over there as well, and truthfully hadn't really made the connection until it was brought up. And given how your friend had been going on and on and on over there, ignoring the advice she'd been given (by myself on another thread, as well as many of the 'guru's' over there as well), I honestly thought that perhaps a 'wake up call' was in order.

She needed to stop with the self-indugent behavior and start thinking with her head for the first time in a while...I had hoped that my post would be 'cold splash of water'. The fact that her secret was out should have been a pretty staggering wake up call. And given her response to DCF's confrontation, it sounded to me as though she needed exactly that.

I've not been back over there yet to see any responses that may have come in over the weekend...and while the LS crowd can sometimes be harsh, that doesn't negate the validity of the advice she'd been given and continued to ignore.

I won't 'interfere' in your friends or DCF's posts again, nor in yours. Best wishes to all involved.

Owl,

I don't have a problem with you posting on my threads and I'm sure DCF doesn't either. What I have a problem with is that you went over there and posted on a dead and buried post and then some others jumped on the bandwagon with hostility. I abhore LS. Like I said it is filled with nothing but a bunch of bitter people. She wasn't going back to look at that post and hasn't been back as far as I know. Her husband has told her not to post there anymore and if she wants to post she has been advised to post on LS.

I think you're a great advice giver. So feel free to post anytime you'd like.

Well, one last thought, and then I'll shut up...I promise.

There has been not one single response to my post over on LS...not one. SmileyD posted in another one of your friend's threads. And those have been the ONLY posts on those threads... no one at all responded to my post to your friend, not even her.

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t74766/

If you read my post, you'll see that it was intended to call her out on her behavior since she was confronted about it. What she did was typical WS fog-behavior...it of course was NOT a normal response to 'friendly' behaviors. And my intent was to clearly show that to HER.

I won't post again to you or anyone in this situation on either forum unless specifically asked to do so. My apologies to anyone I've offended.

Sorry, we just crossed posts.

Like I said Owl, there's no problem with you posting to me. I enjoy your advice. I don't like LS though. Too much hostility. It is not a healthy environment. I think the two people that helped me out the most over there was a person called whichwayisup and LB. You didn't respond to my post over there, but I had already had it removed. Too many bitter people.

I enjoy your posts. Honest! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

NM