In the stranges of places, if you look at it right.

I was in our local grocery store yesterday and was hemming and hawing in the snack aisle for awhile (are there any healthy snacks?) and got to watch a drama unfold.

There were two employees trying to move a large and heavy pallet. One seemed to spouting a running commentary on the frustration this was becoming, and very loudly..."Why aren't there wheels?", "This is not going to work, who thought of this." The other employee was calmly replying, "I don't know," "Hmmm" and looked a little embarrased that the other guy was being so loud.

I started to think to myself....what makes this guy think that I CARE about his problem?

I thought about the other times people have gotten angry about me, specifically family members, kids, etc...and I have always thought it was a certain lack of sel-esteem that will prompt a person to get angry about a situation...like somehow they think they are a bad person and deserve this or don't deserve it.

And I started thinking about the times I've gotten angry and how I don't want to inflict my angry statements or thoughts on other people.

I started to think that this employee that was getting so angry was not suffering for too little self-esteem, but rather too MUCH self-esteem, because he had this notion that the people around him CARED about his anger and frustrations. I REALLY didn't care. He was getting paid for his frustration, but I had to put up with his b&tch*ng and moaning, and wasn't getting paid...

I thought back to the times my H has gotten frustrated with some project he was working on, and shouted or cursed (plumbing comes to mind) and how very LITTLE I cared about his frustration...and didn't want to hear it.

I mentioned this to some of my friends yesterday and they added, that this type of acting out is spoiled behavior...very selfish.

Thoughts? Am I going down the wrong road with this one?