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#1526071 11/21/05 12:08 PM
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That the song by Gloria Gaynor buys into the alien theory?
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First I was afraid
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
without you by my side
But I spent so many nights
thinking how you did me wrong
I grew strong
I learned how to carry on
and so you're back from outer space I just walked in to find you here
with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed my stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second
you'd be back to bother me


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lol!!
Yep! I actually listened to that song a month or so ago. I've known it forever and sang along but didn't really listen. I thought of Pebbles cause she loves disco and it reminded me of how strong she has been with her alien.


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((FF)) I play that song a LOT! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />


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Same here- regular rotation in this house!!!

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i also have been known to dance around to that tune, and also "set me free"----why doncha babe!!!!!!

funny story---on a really bad trigger day i put on this taper i made myself and when set me free came on i turned it up. you have to know hubby's system to fully get that....as if that wasnt bad enough...i had the outdoor speakers on full blast and didnt know it!!! one of my neighbors asked my hubby---so, you need a place to stay?????LOLOLOLOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL


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FF:

Okay, funny "infidelity" song for ya. Country, which I don't normally do, but this was on the radio as I was driving through Sacramento a billion years ago, and it caught my ear...

Collin Raye "That's my Story"

"I came in as the sun came up.
She glared at me over her coffee cup.
She said, "Where you been?"
So I thoguht real hard and said,
"I fell asleep in that hammock in the yard."
She said, "You don't know it boy, but you just blew it."
And I said, "Well that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

That's my story.
Oh, that's my story.
Well, I ain't got a witness, and I can't prove it,
but that's my story and I'm stickin' to it."

I got that deer-in-the-headlight look.
She read my face like the cover of a book and said,
"Don't expect me to believe all that static,
'cause just last week I threw that hammock in the attic."
My skin got so thin so you could see right through it,
and I stuttered, "Well that's my story and I'm stickin t-t-to it.

That's my story.
Well, that's my story.
I ain't got a witness, and I can't prove it,
but that's my story and I'm stickin' to it."

You know the time comes when a wise man knows
the best thing that he can do is just look her in the eye
and beg for mercy and face the bitter truth...

Well honey me and the boys played cards all night.
There wasn't no hanky-panky, not a woman in sight.
I know I should called, and baby I.. I'm really sorry,
but get a cellular phone and then you won't have to worry.
You know how much I love ya, darling, and I'm ready to prove it.
And that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

That's my story,
oh, that's my story.
Well I ain't got a witness and ya know I can't prove it.
But that's my story and I'm stickin' to it.

You know I ain't gonna do a thing darling unless you approve it.
And that's my story and I'm sticking to it."

-ol' 2long

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I grew strong
I learned how to carry on


I like that part! I never REALLY, REALLY listened to the words. But now I think I"ll have to hunt that song down!

Kim


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I Will Survice - Love that song! Played that one till the vinyl broke when my high school BF (1st love) broke up with me!

I burned a CD of a bunch of songs and have been known to blast it when WH was over playing with DS. Here are some of my faves:

Respect, Aretha Franklin
Funkytown, Lipps Inc.
My Lovin' (You're Never Gonna Get it) En Vogue
I Always Get My Man, Shemekia Copeland
Maybe Someday Baby, Delbert McClinton
**My baby told me such a long time ago, she said, your gonna' miss me some day.
Now my baby told me once you are gone, your gonna' wish you had stayed**

Please Don't Go, KC & The Sunshine Band
Don't Leave Me This Way, Thelma Houston
Slippin' Out, Slippin' In, Buddy Guy
**I got a new way of wearin' my hair
This big smile on my face
You didn't put it there
Oh baby
You just go right back out there where you've been
'Cause while you were slippin' out
Someone else was slippin' in
I said while you were slippin' out
Someone else was slippin' in
I said while you were slippin' out
Oh someone else was slippin' in
I said while you were slippin' out
Someone else was slippin' in ***


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Nikko,

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.....one of my neighbors asked my hubby---so, you need a place to stay?????
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Just wanted to let you know you 'made my day'. Thanks.


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Re: RESPECT

Are y'all aware that this song was originally written by a guy, about his relationship with his wife?


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I didn't know that about Respect. I just read the lyrics and it makes sense that it would be written by a man. You see, you learn something new every day!


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My favorite song during the days prior to the dd and after dd, while experiencing rollercoaster emotions, was Dixie Chick's, "Wide Open Spaces",

I took many car drives through the mountains before and after immediate dd, listening to this song, turned up full blast, driving incredibly fast through winding roads.

Those were my liberating moments of feeling anger over his treatment of me.

The hurting moments were of me, listening to Bonnie Raitt, singing "I can't make you love me, If you don't"

And if I was really feeling blue, I would pop in Barry Manilow.


In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.

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Nikko,
Boy you made me laugh! Thanks...

2long....yap, that fits so with a WS...know that song...

There are a lot of country songs I listen to now...they are filled with stories that hit home....

There is that one "She let herself go" that I like....and some others....I'll think of their names and be back!

Oh, yah, LOVE I will survive....I actually bought it when my best friend found out her H was having an A. Now I play it a lot....

Daisy


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EAGLES LYRICS

"Desperado"

Desperado, why don't you come to your senses?
You been out ridin' fences for so long now
Oh, you're a hard one
I know that you got your reasons
These things that are pleasin' you
Can hurt you somehow

Don't you draw the queen of diamonds, boy
She'll beat you if she's able
You know the queen of hearts is always your best bet

Now it seems to me, some fine things
Have been laid upon your table
But you only want the ones that you can't get

Desperado, oh, you ain't gettin' no younger
Your pain and your hunger, they're drivin' you home
And freedom, oh freedom well, that's just some people talkin'
Your prison is walking through this world all alone

Don't your feet get cold in the winter time?
The sky won't snow and the sun won't shine
It's hard to tell the night time from the day
You're losin' all your highs and lows
Ain't it funny how the feeling goes away?

Desperado, why don't you come to your senses?
Come down from your fences, open the gate
It may be rainin', but there's a rainbow above you
You better let somebody love you, before it's too late

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Pep, I never thought of that song in the way I see it now. Love the Eagles.


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Pep, I never thought of that song in the way I see it now. Love the Eagles.

That was my 'go to' song after D Day ... and I would belt it out along with Linda Ronstadt.


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