It has been awhile since I have posted and there are reasons for that. One being that my wife has been extremely ill, I have also been spending more time at home and taking care of an ill/depressed wife, my daughter was in the ER for a kidney infection after spiking a fever of 105. So now my wife and daughter are both asleep and I'm on the computer.

Things have been good but up and down. The wife still looks at her cell phone, he still texts, we have discussed this and have decided to have her number changed which is what I am working on right now. She still has the urge to text him, we have discussed that as well and although it doesn't make me feel good or like I'm doing much to ease her and get things together, I do appreciate her brutal honesty. I have been more attentive to my wife, which she loves, and I have taken on more roles in the home. Over the weekend I cleaned the entire house and sent the kids to their grandmother's so that way my wife and I could lay in bed all weekend and watch movies (remember she's ill with the flu). No sexual contact, I simply wanted to show her that I could be affectionate without wanting sex from her, although I am a man and my wife is hot so the thoughts do cross my mind, but I want to make sure that things are on the up and up before I even attempt to do anything like that.

We have also discussed the NC letter. Which I have written and my wife has written an NC letter and we sent them off via certified and signature required. He received them because I did get confirmation from the post office. He has been warned and told to stay away. Yet continues to text and send emails. I now have all my wifes passwords and I am the one getting those emails, not my wife. We have discussed going to the gigs again, since my best friend fired the guy there is no real danger in my wife picking the PR job back up. She is an excellent marketer and promoter so they loved her work enough to invite her back.

This is a tough road and I wouldn't wish it on anyone but we are hanging in there. Besides the best news is that my company is sending my wife and I on an all expense paid trip to San Antonio on the third weekend of December and we're excited. She did make up with her best friend and even thanked her. That is a step in the right direction. I'm lucky to have my wife's best friend in my wife's life. I couldn't thank her enough. I love my wife to death and I am glad that I caught this before it went further.

Owl,

You can post to me anytime you'd like. I appreciate all facets of advice. LoveShack is too tawdry and bitter for me to post on and I will not let my wife post there again. They are not helpful and the forum environment over there is vile. I feel sorry for the posters over there. Not to worry. I appreciate everything.

Small easy suggestion...if at all possible, swap cell phones with your wife for a while...so that whenever he texts or emails, you'll get it, and not her. Perhaps send a text response to OM letting him know that YOU are getting these texts, not her. Send the same from email. Getting a new number shouldn't take too long I'd think.

Glad to hear things are going well. Good that she's admitted to wanting to text him actually, that tends to indicate that she's going through some small amount of withdrawl.

Hang in there friend. And I do suggest that you both seek a good, pro-marriage counselor who can help ya'll work through this.

DC,

Looks like you are on your way but it will be rough so hang in there.One positive thing to remember is that your WW didn't progress things to a PA,that would only compound things like you can't imagine.

Kudos to your friend giving the OM the ax.He deserved it and good ridance.

Stay strong and keep us posted.Hope your girls feel better real soon!

*Don't forget counseling.

O

DC,

I think things are going as well as to be expected. I think Owl's idea of switching cell phone is an excellent idea.