K SIL just called with confirmed evidence that my eldest brother is having at least a EA. When FWH was deep in the fog and active in A, he went with elder brother and ds on a week’s vacation-- this is were ds learned of his father’s affair. When WH returned from this trip he mentioned he “thought” my elder brother was involved in A. I was too tied up with my own concerns and hurts and did not say anything to SIL. At the time too, have since learned WH was projecting his own indiscretions on others. But now that SIL is telling me about text messages, one of the messages said “ am ready to leave when you are.” another “ Hurt so bad not being able to see you right now”. Trying to recall what FWH told me, I understand elder brother works with this woman, and that she is M too. Is it my place to tell SIL what FWH told me? I have already directed her to come here to MBs? I am beginning to suspect that elder brother and FWH compaired notes on this trip!!! Grrrrrrrrrrr I had already suspected that elder brother knew of FWH A though he denies this as so since ds learned of it by way of overheard phone conversations during the trip it stood to reason elder brother did too.

Yes, tell her. It is your place. Actually, you can go to her husband and demand he tell her first...or you will tell her. Either way is acceptable.

In His arms.