W is starting to come out of withdrawl with no contact of OM. one of the love busters in our relationship was that because of my job I never wore my wedding ring to work, so when I was away from work going out to dinner ect I would always forget to put it on, it wasnt done to hurt her but, it did. Now that we are trying to see if we can fix our marrage should I put it on for the holidays when we go out?
Would this be fulfilling an emotional need or might it be love busting or putting pressure on her. Also now that she seems to be gomming out of withdrawl wht would be the proper fourm to post in since the OM is not an issue>

Cliff

For what it's worth (I've never worn a wedding ring), I would vote for putting it on. It would show her that you still consider yourself married. Plus, it will probably make her feel happy and guilty all at once. In a good way. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Don't necessarily limit yourself to one forum. The R board is good, but a lot of really good people are here, too, specializing in R problems & questions. So take your pick.

There seems to be a lot more traffic in here Cliff - I'd post here. I would also wear my ring - it makes a statement to your wife.

I didn't wear a ring for the first 7 years of my marriage. I tried for a couple months but could not stop fidgeting with it.

My wife always wished I would and commented on other men wearing theirs incessantly. I did not listen...beside, I thought, my father didn't wear his, ever, and he's been married to my mother 48 years.

Anyway...now I wear it. I got a better fitting ring and it helped. I hardly notice it. I take it off at my desk when I find myself fidgeting with it or if I have to type for awhile. I've misplaced it a time or two but for the most part I wear it constantly.

An idea for you. To help me keep up with it I put a suction cup hook on the mirror in my bathroom. Then it is easy to find and put on after I finish getting ready in the morning. It's also a nice place to put it as she sees I have made a conscious effort to keep up with it. Even if I forget she sees I am trying.

As far as forums. I mostly post here and sometimes Just found out so I am biased to GQII. I think we're just better people. J.K. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Congrats on making it this far.

Mr. Wondering

I agree about it making a statement, I think it would show how serious I am about fixing our relationship.

Wear it whether the WS wears theirs or not. It does send a message and it's a positive message.

I took issue with my FWH for not wearing his and I know the shoe is on the other foot for you with your FWW but from a woman’s perspective I can tell you this was a hurt I carried for years. He took his off for matters of work too after the 1st year of our marriage and I understood this necessity but it still hurt. He used to put it on for special occasions but he stopped remembering to do that many years ago too. It may have seemed to have become a non issue for my FWH ‘cause I stopped saying anything about it, but it wasn’t. Wear the ring and show her and others how you really feel. It might even open up dialogue about with her.