Like most people that I've read about I lost weight after D-day. Of the five men in my department that are a BS, only one gained weight. He gained about 30 lbs and has never lost it since that time (5 yrs).

Since D-day I have slowly put the weight back on. Since I said "I forgive you" the pounds have been packing on.

Anyone ever gain weight after D-day?

Absolutely yes.

I lost 33 pounds. THen slowly regained 15.

For me, personally, I was so busy (and exhausted) with the mental fitness of recovery, that I couldnt concentrate on both.

Yes.

Lost 30 lbs like that <snaps fingers> after d-day.

In the past month, I've put 10lbs back on and I'm just not motivated to do anything about it. I know losing weight would meet a need for my WH, but it ain't easy.

You aren't alone.

H4F,

Like most of us ,I lost a lot of weight post discovery,went down to a size 0 and got scared at how thin I looked.Since I went off the AD's though,I have put back on 10 lbs that I am having a hard time ridding myself of.I'm still a size 4 like normal but to me this added weight feels uncomfortable to me.I have always been the same weight(sans A) since HS.

But I vow to get it off once my D is final.An excuse to say the least but I have got to deal with one major life issues at a time.I still exercise/rollerblade though and walk my dog,etc.I need to start running again for sure. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

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Interesting question. I didn't eat for a week, and if I did, I was really sick at my stomach.

At the time of the A, I was the smallest I had been in a years. I looked great. About after D-day, I started gaining weight. I packed on about 30 pounds.

I talked to my IC, because after I realized it, I couldn't decide what I was doing. Was I gaining weight to see if he still loved me fatter? Was I gaining weight to punish him? I think I finally decided I was testing him. Now, I am doing my best to eat right, exercise, etc. I want to be healthy and look good- for me- not him.

I've lost 15 pounds in just under 3 months, but I think my situation is compounded because I'm also breastfeeding. I've always been small, but I'm smaller now than before we got married. NONE of my pants fit...

I personally have lost 20lbs since d day. Size 4s are a little too big! Am hoping to keep the weight I am now. Yea, I lost the weight because of stress and I didnt really eat for several months after D day. Just didnt have the feeling of hunger. Now I feel the best I have since I was in my 20's (just hit 37). Feeling great physically, just have to still work on emotionally.

I started gaining weight when I said to my H, "I want you to care about me more than Sophia" and his response was "If it wasn't for the kids, I'd be long gone." I didn't think he was in an affair, only recovering from an emotional affair that he had ended two months previously. That was four years ago and 40 pounds ago.

I feel like a whale. I refuse to go into women's sizes, so I am literally splitting pants. I'm not really sure why it happened, but it was only a few days after that exchange of words given above that I noticed my appetite dramatically increased. I gained 10 pounds within the month, it was D-day five months later, and I was up another 10 in another couple of months. I never did go on anti-dperessents and think that food may have been a way for me to cope. Overeating seems to have the effect of a sedative. I feel sluggish.

Cherishing

Hi,

I started to gain weight myself in the two plus years ( after father died) before FWH ask for separation but denied other woman in the Spring. At the time of, he placed blame for the failings of our relationship–his lack of happiness on me, and I took it seriously. I began to lose weight then at a healthy rate, but since D-day it has been melting off at a rapid rate. I’ve lost about 301bs thus far. Been 2 ½ months since d-day and I still have a hard time eating and am never hungry and have to make myself remember to eat. And when I do eat, I just get sick to my stomach.

I am wondering do WS and FWS lose weight?

I don't know about WS/FWS (tho I have heard that often FWS will lose weight while in withdrawl), but I know that I lost 26lbs in two weeks after d-day. I really didn't even notice, but it even had my WW scared, and she was deep in withdrawl at the time.

I've gained it back...it took about six months before I started to gain weight again, and nearly a year for me to get back to my normal weight.

It's a "crash diet" for sure.

I was overweight before dd.

I lost 65 pounds after dd, but have now gained back 10 pounds of it.

Immediately after dd, food was tasteless and made me sick.

I self medicated with beer, eating just enough food to keep myself from getting sick while drinking.
(I am not a drinker)

Now, it seems the opposite.

Now it seems I am self medicating with food, lol; thus the 10 pound increase.

I have to get a handle on my weight before I gain back all my weight I lost, plus add on more.

Anyone have any suggestions on how to curb my emotional need to eat??

More SF? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

MORE SF????<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Bwahahahahahahahah!!!

I'll take that issue up with xws.

You crack me up owl. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I know this sounds weird... but any advice on how to gain weight?

And, BTW, I do eat!

I am nearly 8 months past d/day, lost nearly 4 stone after that happy day, and I'm still too thin.

Alph.

As an expert eater and slightly overweight individual, I have this for you:

Lot's of twinkies, donuts, and stay away from any diet drinks or light beers. And remember, when you think you can't eat anymore, give it that extra effort to eat that last piece of pizza.

No pain, no gain.<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Alphin, I wish losing too much weight was my problem.
I look at food and I feel my pants growing smaller by the inches. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

LOL! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
I lost 50 lbs mostly because my stomach was in knots and I had no appetite. As things have settled down, my appetite returned I've gained about 10 lbs of that wt back. FWH is gaining wt back too. I think the 2 of us will diet together.
My new smaller clothes are becoming a little uncomfortable...I'm not liking it one bit...I refuse to go back to stretchy sweats! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Yes, they (I) do. And not from withdrawal, as the A has been over for many years. Watching someone you love suffer is a natural appetite suppressant. My H calls it the stress diet, and neither of us is overweight by any means.

I thought i was the only one who gained the weight back. Now i seem to be dealing with this situation by eating. Don't know why because it makes me feel crappy.

I lost almost 30 lbs. after Dday #1 (needed to lose it and more). I've kept it off until now, and am starting to gain it back. WH lost weight intentionally during A (trying to impress OW, I guess), but is now gaining his back as well. But he really didn't need to lose much anyway.