I'm too young and tired of my wife and the way she treats me and my family. I want out so I can get on with my life. Should I wait until after the holidays? I don't want to ruin them for her family or mine.

When I first read this post I felt you were a very shallow and selfish person... until I read back through your other posts... I am pro marriage but to be honest in your case I would be ending this marriage you do not have children and when and if they come along your marriage will only become more difficult and cause more pain for more people. So my answer to your question is end it before.
good luck

I would think your family would be relieved. Her family - well - she's cut from the same cloth, so what do you think?

To answer your question, albeit a little too late, I think you file and tell her AFTER you've filed but before the holidays.

I don't think it's wise to tell harmful spouses about plans to file provided you've already tried everything you can thinnk of to fix the marriage and said spouse has not made any changes or participated.

If you can't file until after the New Year, I'd consider telling her that your feelings for her have deteriorated to such a point you won't be spending the holidays with her. You'll be going to your family and she may go anywhere else but there.

I know it sounds harsh, but it's respectful and true and provides some protection for you and your family during the holidays. The last two years of my marriage my family couldn't stand it when B and I both came over. The animosity between B and me filled the room infecting everyone.

For some perspective - I was told by my wife she was leaving and filing about 10 days after we came back from vacation and 2 weeks before Thanksgiving. The blow was huge and crushing. I don't know your personal situation and haven't gone back to read any of your previous posts, so I don't know you - but as someone who's just essentially had this same thing done to them, it isn't pretty, it isn't nice. I won't say it's not fair, because what's fair for one oftentimes isn't for the other.

I wouldn't do it the week before Christmas, but do it soon.

Good luck!

Ask for a divorce?

Do you expect him to do all the work?

Um. I'm male and I'm considering divorcing my wife.

Also, I will file if I want it. I think I've decided to hold off until the new year because nobody wants to have it hanging over the air around Christmas.