Obviously, this is a tough one. How do you get through the holidays gracefully during Plan B?

There are hopes, even expectations that the WS will have an earth shaking epiphany and will move the world to get started on recovering the marriage before Christmas.

I think that as a BS in Plan B, i must accept the situation AS IT IS NOW and make my holiday plans accordingly. But how? How do I make it right for the children? If I cook the Christmas feast as I have for the entire in-law family for the past 18 years and leave out WH, the children will feel guilty, will pity WH, and be angry at me. There is the possibilty that I invite the inlaws, but they decline this year. A family divided ... not exactly the Christmas spirit. I could tell the kids to spend Christmas with their father and his family and stay home alone.

How do I get through this? Any suggestions?

Well, LT, you will have to be creative.

I don't think either of those options seem to serve you well and your NEW situation.

One leaves WS out, the other, you, and it's only because it is trying to follow a 'tradition' that may need some major 'tuning up'.

Think outside the 'box', LT, and see what ideas you come up with....like, brainstorming ideas (no censuring), ask for input from those close to you - kids, SIL, close friends...but I think, bottom line, it will need to be 'different' from previous years, otherwise, the 'comparison' will be inevitable which may create some uneasiness and tension in the air.

I know you were asking for specific ideas, but I somehow feel if you take some time to think about it, the ideas will come to you...(when you least expect them, as the saying goes).