OW keeps calling and leaving messages for my husband which keeps confusing him more! Her messages are so selfish in how her H left her and how she needs him (my H) more than ever. He keeps flip flopping back and forth and I know he is torturing himself with guilt.

I am trying to stay stong and not cry and tell him how much I love him and need him and our kids need him, and as a result she has a rope around his heart and just keeps pulling it tighter and tighter. What do I do, do I contact her and tell her if she REALLY cares about him she would leave him alone to let him figure his feelings out? She knows he is on the fence and that is why she keeps pushing. I'm afraid of doing the wrong thing if I do contact her and tell her to back off, I don't want him to resent me more. But the way I see it, if it were meant to be and she loves him so much and thinks he loves her, then why doesn't she leave him alone to work things out on his own, then if he decides to divorce me he is all hers?

Where to go from here? Do I contact her, or let him continue to be brainwashed, its so hard to just sit back and watch when I know what he really wants.

Ask him to send her a no contact letter asking her to stop. It is up to HIM to put a stop to this.

Who is this OW? Is she married? Do they work together?