Well i have a confession to make...the tiger in losttiger is my H. That is the pet name the OW gave him. I don't know why but i seem to be obsessed to keep an eye on her via the computer...you know the saying keep your friends close and your enemies closer...well i found a site for products she is trying to sell, starting her own online business and she named the site her and my H pet names. Like they were a couple or something. It cut me to the core. I asked my H about it and he knew nothing...in that he is no longer keeping in touch with him. He was the one who helped her start the site when they were together. Why would she do that?

Hi lostiger. You answered your own question. She is keeping him close in her thought and obessing over your H and she is twisting the knife in you.

Unrepentant OP make me crazy. What did you H say aobut this? HOw is your R going other than this glitch?

That does sound horrible, losttiger.

Sounds to me like you need to find a friend or two on a hacker board and see if they can infect her website with a virus or ten...LOL!

fightingalone-again: Well my H said..."how should i know why she did that, I don't really care, i don't talk to her anymore" He wants me to stop looking for stuff to get upset over. Recovery is more in the down than the up at this time...I don't know maybe its the holidays.

Owl: LOL do you have anyone in mind up for the job. I thought about posting the site here and let you guys tell her what you think of women who go after taken men....hmmmmm

Hi, losttiger. Holidays do suck sometimes.

But, it is Thanksgiving. What do you have that you are thankful for? YOur family is together and you have a chance at recovery.

And finding out that the OW is still obessesed with your H can be a dangerous path. imho. That is, your need to know what she is doing. Is it possible that this is impeding your rebuilding? And sharing your findings with your H might also bring OW to his mind and open up his curiosity. And also make him think you are more interested in hanging on to the hurts instead of working on healing.

Are you in IC and MC? BEcasue I honeslty think that any M that has a long term chance of survining needs to go through that very painful process. And finding a good MB minded C is a difficult task. Are you PLan A'ing? HAve you done the EN questionnaire lately? Are you POJA'ing? Have you set aside time for the two of you to have FUN? Have you set aside a time for you to speak about the adultery? ANd leave it alone the rest of the time?

Is H being honest with you? Lots of things to think about and I am not judging you, lt. I will bet that most of the BS had the opportunity that you have right now.

And feeling up and then down is par for the course. THat is the way things go. If you look at all the successes, sometimes the BS just wants to get the heck away from all the pain. Take a breath and enjoy your Thanksgiving. Hugs to you. And hang on tight! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />