Just having a hard time. I feel like I know all the "right" things to do to make myself feel better, but I'm just weak tonight.... in a slump.... feeling down... and alone. Just feeling unloved... unlovable... and frustrated.... because I know I'm a good person... not perfect... but a good person and worthy to be loved.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

I'm here.
Want a hug?
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

The truth is, you are a good person, you are worthy to be loved, and you are loved.

Is something going on other than the holidays? I was feeling this way the week before Thanksgiving but once the day finally came, the feeling was gone. It helps me to remember "this too shall pass". I still feel so helpless when I'm in the midst of that feeling despite attempting to do all the "right" things to make myself feel better that I've learned over the past few years.

a hug is good ... thank you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

this too shall pass... yes... thank you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

no, nothing big going on.

I'm here!! If you need to talk you have my email!! I'm in the same kind of mood...it has to be the holidays talking!! YUCK!!!

then hug hug so big hug <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


I live with my son (4), and he helps me a lot in those moments... I watch him, hug him and kiss a lot, and see my main mission on the earth for the rest of my life... If something else nice and lovely comes to my way, I'd be very glad. If not, well, I'm already too busy with my mission anyway... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

When a friend of mine (has no kids) gets in those moods, she cleans the house. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />
When you visit her, before saying anything, you look around and instantly you know how she feels. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Really, almost nothing help so much as - keep yourself busy, with whatever you can do, so busy you'd make yourself very tired.

Go out and run as long as you can stand.
Turn on some music and dance till pain in your legs.
Just do not give in your negative thoughts!
Well, sometimes it helps if you cry, or scream loud.

But what I read recently and I adore to make yourself relaxed and eas the stress - BREATHING!
Inhal through your nostrils, a deep deep breath, slowly, smoothly, and keep it for a bit, feel it inside, then exhal through your mouth.
And repeat it as many times as you are free of negative thinking (or till you are tired <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />).
No pause between inhalation and exhalation.
This really brings our awareness to our breathing, e.i. withdraw it from emotional pain...

thanks for the support, girls.

That breathing technique sounds good.... thanks belonging. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Welcome! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hey, Faith...I'm here.

{{{{{{{{Faith}}}}}}}

I know the feeling of it being a down day. I took the day off as vacation, originally going to spend it with BF, but that of course didn't quite happen. So I slept until almost noon, and didn't get out of my PJ's until nearly 5pm. Sort of a wasted day, considering it's the last vacation day I have for the year, but I guess that's what vacation is for.

I agree with the statement that it helps to keep busy. (Now if I could put it into practice instead of moping and being all sick and just laying around, that'd be better). But I know, when I force myself to get busy around the house, I do feel better. Dancing to fun music--with the blinds closed so no one sees how goofy I look--also can help.

I think the holidays are tough on some of us. I rather dread the whole next month in a way. And I can't remember where you live, if it's warm or cold there, but here in Iowa when it gets bleak and cold and dark like it is, it just really dampens things.

So just know I'm thinking of you.

LL

Faith, I really hate those days. I have had them too, and they are the worst.

I believe you do know the "right" things, just like me, but it doesn't make you/me immune to the feeling of self hurt at times.

Most times when I feel that way I try to get out of the house. I walk. Walking is the most therapeutic for me. If the weather is bad or night, I sometimes go out to a store, not necessarily to buy, but to get me around people. I don't always feel 100% better afterwards, but it does help.

It's hard to give advice because I struggle with the same thoughts sometimes. But one thing is for certain, you are worthy of being loved and it will happen. Time/patience is the hard part as we well know.

It does help posting here too on those days. Sometimes my greatest advice has come from the people here, and the fact of knowing, I'm not alone.

I hope you are feeling better today.
Karona

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You give so much support and encouragement to others - here's some back for you! You are a great person who has a lot to share, you have gifts and talents that are unique to you. The encouragement you give on this board is just the tip of the iceberg of great qualities which are in you.

May today be better than yesterday for you and everyone else who is feeling down.

Faith,
I agree with avondale, you always seem to be here and ready to give some GREAT help to others... here's a trick I have: What would I tell my friend if they were in my situation? I do that a lot and it really helps!
I'm a big lover of music. I find a song that describes how I'm feeling. If I don't find one, I write one. I'm not a songwriter mind you, but if I see it written down it seems to help. I'll listen to some sad tunes and feel down a little, but it always seems that those sad tunes eventually wind up to the happy ones and my mood gets turned around.
Exercise is a GREAT way to get you out of the blues.

What's funny is that yesterday when I read your post I was feeling the same way. I spent ALL of Friday (except for a couple of early morning hours shopping with a friend-ugh!) in bed!!! But ya know, sometimes we need those days. We ALL get down. As long as it doesn't last for more than a few days, I ALLOW myself to feel down and sad and lonely, and honestly, a little scared that I will ALWAYS be alone. My thing is I'd rather be alone than in another bad marriage/relationship. I've also been seriously considering getting myself a puppy, but that's my deal!

I think in our society today it's come to a point where we always have to be "happy" and can't be down, but what you are feeling is completely normal!!! I think we ALL get this way, especially when we've had people around us and then they are gone. Another thing that doesn't help me is all the sappy stuff on TV. Wah! There's a couple in love, he's so sweet to her... boo hoo! I don't have anyone!

But, my friend, you ARE FABULOUS, and again I will say it will come...and it will be better than you ever imagined!!!
As you said, you KNOW it all to be true, but it's okay to forget and be reminded by those that care about you!!

SO, ARE you feeling better today?!

Thank you so much. Your words are very helpful to me this morning!!!! Sometimes we just have to reach out for a little support. Glad you are here!!!

Today will be better. Yes, Thanksgiving was harder without a "special someone" than I thought, I guess, and I had to work on Friday. But today will be better. I'll go walking in a little bit, and then get out and about and run some errands, and I really want to do some house-cleaning.

You got it Drita. Now I'm bawling. Thanks so much for your words.... you're right... Appreciate ya, girl!!!

Oh, I didn't want to make you cry!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Unless they are good tears...?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

hehe. Good and bad tears. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Like you said, the bad ones are OK sometimes. Just have to let them flow. The good ones are because... well... because I could relate to what you were saying... and your words touched me and made me feel better.

Long relationship xBF "J" just called. I think he's psychic, (in addition to psychotic <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> ) and knows when I am down. 2 weeks ago, we met, and he had decided we shouldn't have any more contact, because he still had deep feelings for me, and he didn't want to be friends. Well, I've heard from him 3 times since then, today is the 4th. He wanted to have lunch tomorrow and I turned him down. He understood. He's changed his mind and wants to be friends. I dont know. I said I don't know how we can be friends since he told me how his feelings were... I can't always feel like he is pursuing me, or is being hurt by my other BF's. He understood, and we didn't make a decision, but we talked for almost an hour, and he cheered me up some, just talking.