I would like to know how you can stand by trying to do PlanA and watch your mate blatently email the OW and not just blow up? Supposedly he is all about being "honest"now, letting me read her email...but he still doesn't want me reading his. He gets mad and starts yelling about his "space". He still intends to move out, he has said he will see her when he can...and that she begrudgingly accepted being just friends with him. It is obvious to me she thinks she is in love with him. I don't know what his game is with this crap. If he is just friends, why all the secrecy about what he sends to her. I swear I thought I saw the word 'love' somewhere in the last line before he sent it. I think he's lying to me when he says he loves me.
He acts all sweet to me during the day and at work, but at night he turns into a jerk almost every night. He sneaks and gets up in the middle of the night to check his mail and remove it before I can see it..and now threatens to send his mail to her at the same time.
I wonder if I should just go home to my parents and give him a big dose of reality..all the bills with this house and not enough money to pay them. I am so disgusted and hurt.
I didn't mention that he is bi-polar too. He was off his meds about a month last summer before we moved, and hasn't seen a Psch in quite a while. I'm not even sure they are right for him anymore.
Last night I got him to agree not to leave until he is under a therapists care...it seems he just can't wait to get out. I just don't know how much of this may be due to the disorder or if he's just a jerk.
He says he loves me but I think he thinks he loves her too.
She can't possibly love him..I'm the one who listens to him fart and snore and grind his teeth and I love him anyway. SHe is just a pimple faced 24 year old with no honor, and for some reason he thinks she is the voice of god.
He says, "i just have to talk to somebody besides you sometimes...about me, and what I expect from me and what Iwant for me..and yes that's a lot of "me" and yes I am being selfish" but he does it anyway. If he loved me he would care more about my feelings than his own...so should I just leave him to it?
Is it really worth all this misery just to end up being left anyway? Sometimes I think I hate him...but he didn't used to treat me like this. He was always loving and kind before.
How much of this abuse do you take before you go to Plan B?
I'm getting too old to waste several years in this nonsense.
I deserve better.
My friend tells me not to do anything rash until he sees a Dr. but we can't do that until Dec. 26..no insurance.
So how do you do it?
SHould I just file for a legal separation so I can get financial support and just kick him out? I am just about to the end of my rope here.
Last edited by Nicneven; 11/25/05 11:22 PM.
