BreakingThread,
You might want to cut and paste your part of the story and add it to Damage_Inc.'s thread. In fairness to Harley, he doesn't know of the abuse. Breaking down a door is one step away from physical abuse of you.
Cherishing

TA.....

Certain professions are obligated to report suspected abuse. NOT obligated to observe, not obligated to prove, not obligated to investigate abuse. Only obligated to report.

I AM in such a position. So are teachers, and counselors.

I recently spoke to a social worker inquiring if I needed to report something I thought had about a 20% chance of being true. I did not trust the teenager who was involved to be entirely accurate in her story. She had a self-serving reason for telling me the story. I suspected she was fabricating or at least making parts of her story about her mother much worse than they actually were. When I spoke to the DCS social worker, I told her I thought this was probably not an accurate claim, but I did not know it was NOT accurate either. She said I HAD TO REPORT IT .. and that their department would determine which parts, if any, of the story were true.

The thing is ....

you can't have it both ways

you can't say someone's behavior perhaps rises to the level of abuse and then expect the (obligated reporter) professional to NOT report.

pick one

A. there was no possible abuse, no report required.

B. it could be abuse, report is mandated by law

TA ... FYI

My H and I have twice been investigated for child abuse.

1. our D told her teacher ( gosh , this was at least 6 years ago ) that her brother had threatened her with a knife. She never told us. The teacher called us to inform us she was obligated to make the report. We were advised that unless we were able to make our daughter safe from her brother, they would remove HER from our home. We got HIM into residential treatment.

2. our son told his therapist of a physical confrontation we'd had with him (all true) and he wanted to report abuse at that time rather than at the time the incident occured ( 2 YEARS earlier, when we were waiting for the police to come to get him to take him to the hospital we sat on him and restrained him and we caused bruses)

so you see.... there can be very confusing and even years old events that require the professional to report.

Pep,
According to our therapist, in our state, this applies to suspected cases of child abuse, but not spousal abuse. When I asked her not to report the incident because I was under the impression she might need to, she explained to me she was under no obligation to. I'm sure it would have been a totally different scenario had it been one of our children hit by the door, though. Thank God it wasn't........

[color:"red"] suggested I seek a divorce from my H [/color]

exactly what is being discussed ... how IC can be anti-marriage

This is what Harley said:

[color:"purple"] Your wife's personal counselor is not trying to save your marriage -- she's trying to provide your wife with an escape. [/color]

... and maybe you do need that escape ... but the POINT is ... individual counselors are not trying to save the marriage .... many times this is true, and it is true in this case as well.

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