Ok here's a question that came to my mind when I responded to another post.

Assume you have dated a person two or three times and you like and feel comfortable enough with that person to kiss, a lot! Ok, you're making out like crazy on the couch.

What does that mean to you? What doesn't it mean?

I know for me it means that I like the woman, I am attracted to her on several levels, and I feel comfortable being with her. It means that I want to enjoy the fact that I am a man and she is a woman.

It does not mean that we are exclusive, going-steady or any other similar thing.

It does not mean we are going to get married, live together, etc.

It does not mean I want or expect to have sex with her, though my body parts may resond in that direction. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Hey, we guys can't hide it like the ladies can.

I agree it means there is an attraction there and you both enjoy making out. It doesn't HAVE to move into the bedroom and it would depend on the two and what they mutually agree on. In fact I think it's kinda fun to have a major make out session and have nothing sexually happen and just let it build in your mind as time goes by until the release finally happens down the road...whenever

Kissing is as much of foreplay as anything else. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

OK, all this "making-out" talk is not helping my "lonliness" mood. <pout>

or, maybe it's helping me move forward! <searching for Mr. Slow's phone number, since I've been putting off calling him> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I agree with you Justin, on what it means on about the 2nd or 3rd date. Even on dates AFTER the 3rd date. And I appreciate a man that thinks that way. A man that thinks making-out is an invitation to the bedroom takes the fun out of making-out. (Forgive me, men. I guess there's women that think that way too.)

I don't feel comfortable making out on date 3 or 4 (not that I haven't done it!!! But that's how I know!)
I want it to mean something, so I'll hold off on it. But it depends on how things are going.
I agree that we girls have the upper hand on being able to hide/turn it off...but that doesn't mean we don't, well, I'm not going to say it!!!
But I think again, you are going to find, this is an individual thing... you are going to have to ask the one you are with. If you are getting hot and heavy with someone who takes it seriously, then watch out. If you feel that comfortable "making out", then to me, you should feel comfortable to ask.
You know, I'm now in week 6 with this guy I'm dating and STILL no kiss. We have talked about it now though, and we both agree the time just hasn't been right. We're going out tonight... maybe I'll get a little lip action...??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

6 Weeks Drita???? Sorry, I had to make sure I read that right. I guess what I will say to that is, be careful when that kiss happens. [teasing with ya]

And to answer your Q. JE~~ I would say I would feel much like you. But if it was "like crazy" as you said, I would have to keep myself in check and not get caught up in the moment.
I'm trying to answer at what point this could even happen for me, and I'm having a hard time. So, I say, for this to happen, I would really have to be feeling some strong attraction.

Karona

Well, K, your current guy calls you once a week, and doesn't talk much, so it will be a while. hehe. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Kind of like my Mr. Slow. But you said... you want someone slow.

Oh, I'm laughing Faith!

I don't think we will ever make it to that stage. I just don't see it happening.

I saw him yesterday on the road. He was a perfect gentlemen. He let me make a turn in front of him. I wondered if he even knew it was me??

Thanks for the laugh!

K!

I am curious about another thing.

We have all heard about "friends with benefits" where a man and a woman who are friends only decide to meet each other's sexual needs together. The idea is that it's better to do it with somebody you know and trust than get tempted to do it with some stranger.

What about a low power version of "friends with benefits" that just involves some hand holding, making out and such? Is that possible?

We've had a thread on that before! I remember specifically one question that came up was do you tell your eventual partner about your friend with benefits... it was quite interesting!
For me, the friends with benefits wouldn't work. Several reasons, mostly because that's not the goal I'm looking for and I want it all... as in Pretty Woman- "I want the fairytale"!

Not for me. I like making out too much. Besides, how long can you make out before you start groping each other? Or maybe that's just me.

What does it mean to me? It means I like the man and am physically attracted to him. Sometimes it means, I'd really like to jump his bones and wish I were a complete slut and could.

For me, making out like crazy on the couch is a precursor to sex. If sex did not follow such a session, I would be offended, and I would assume some level of emotional or physical dysfunction. Why would someone who is making out like crazy with you not want to have sex otherwise?

I kind of feel like Feels like rain,
it's a little too much like playing around in my experience, if a man is willing to make out with me as no big deal, he's probably making out with others.
It's happened but I am not happy about the outcome usually which is about the same contact, as if we are friends and nothing really happened. I can't help but have expectations and I think the guy does too-expect some sort of loyalty. So in most cases now, these days I am not as needy-I try to put it off until we have somesort of discussion on where we stand-our values.

Nat