Hello. I posted here several times. My wife and I have been seperated for 1yr and 2 months. I had an affair for 6 months that ended in 4/04, we attempted to work on things until 10/04 and then she moved out. I have committed myself to change, did nott alk to the OW since and have changed. My wife has seen the changes, but asked for a divorce in September. Since then, we continue to hang out and we are somewhat affectionate. I told her 3 weeks ago that i could not just be friends after the divorce because its too hard. She said she wasnt sure if she wanted to be in the marriage, but is reconsidering the divorce. We got together to hang out a week after I told her and we were affectionate again. I asked about going t oa marital seminar and she said she would think about it. I then offered to stop all contact for 3-4 months to give her a chance to see if she would be happier without me in her life. She said no to that, but did not offer any other suggestions. I feel she keeps me where she wants me without committing to working on the marriage but doesn't want me out of her life. Since then, I sent her a text by cell phone saying I hope she had a good Thanksgiving, but she never responded, which is somewhat like her, but it hurt. Where do i go from here. I don't want to spend the next 2-3 years in limbo and give all and receive nothing. I realize I made the biggest mistake in a marriage, but there is only so much I can ammend myself. Any suggestions?
