I wonder if her A with OM is falling apart and they have to be worried about me telling OMW.
It might very well be and of course OM will be terrified that the news will get back to his BS. This will make it much more difficult to carry on the affair.
this situation does seem hopless.
The situation is only hopeless when YOU give up hope. Don't give in to the temptation. There is still a chance to save this M.
My WW seems to be gone in her fantasy.
That's exactly right. She is still entertaining the fantasy that she will have both of you around to fill her EN's and her rep as a "good" woman.
How do you respond to this statement from WW She tells me the day after exposure that she feels sorry for me because I must be hurting and the fact that I cant see her with another man she said this to me in a none caring tone almost as if im pathedic. How do you respond, All I did was listened I never said a thing. I do believe she was trying to push my buttons she is so evil right now.
She was. She is trying to push you away so you will give in and sign the divorce decree. She's not ready to believe that any changes for the better you have made are real. She's testing your commitment. Don't make this easy!
Have you kept up your journaling? That bit about I hope you will die / eat your gun may be usefull to you in court. It shows a certain lack of stability. Remember WW & OM are DESTROYING two families.
Remember the mantra.
I can't force you to do it but it is still a good idea to let the OMW know what is going on. The longer you wait the longer they have to prepare their answers to minimize the impact of the exposure.
Stay Strong!