My mom's bf of 6 yrs and her are having trouble with thier relationship. After hearing about my H and I using the MB's method, she is interested. I have printed the worksheets that they need but, her bf doesn't want to have any part of them. They are living together. He tries to play the man of the house role yet, doesn't seem to be able to keep up with the yard work or taking out the trash. Basically she has a lot of things she would like for him to work on in their relationship. She knows that she has things to work on to but, his reply to working on it is I have been through 2 M and they couldn't change me I'm not going to change for you. This makes me think he doesn't want to work on the relationship and maybe she should tell him to leave. After so much time together and her not wanting to be alone I don't know what advice to give her any help???

have her hire someone to do the lawn...

have her take out the trash herself...

I am serious...

her not wanting to be alone is a good recipe for putting up with unacceptable behavior...(which is not to say hating yard work and not taking out trash is unacceptable behavior...).

but the issue of the fear of being alone out weighing the fear of a poor BOYFRIEND..which is ALL he is....doesn't respect your mom enough to marry her...is a dangerous mix..

ARK

Pretty soon she will be wiping his butt, if not already.

Your mom is in abusive R. Is that worth it to her?
If she would rather be in an abusive R than be alone, safe and happy, then you'd better think about distancing yourself because an abusive BF is going to use all her family members and friends (if given the chance). It's just a matter of when. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

JMHO,
L.

Pretty much explains WHY he has been divorce twice, doesn't it? Is your mother "that needy" that she'll settle for such an obvious loser and NOT "marriage material?" The answer to that questions is rhetorical. SIX YEARS as a "live-in boyfriend" should be answer enough. He already is getting all the "benefits" without the commitment. So WHY should he change anything? He's not going to anyway because he is a self-admitted selfish person who WILL NOT put the needs of someone else ahead of his own desires.

Hello? Get Dr. Laura's book about the "stupid things women do to mess up their lives" and give it to your mother. Or better yet, give the MB website address and tell her to come and talk with us about her situation.

God bless.