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Inspired by AGoodGuy's reply to another post - I thought it would be interesting to hear everyones thought!
So - please offer up opinions on what makes a guy a "real man"!
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face. Challenges can be stepping stones or stumbling blocks. It’s just a matter of how you look at them. The purpose of life is to live it, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience
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hehe... either everyone's pondering your fantastic question, or they are scared to answer. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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a real man is
patient, observant, quiet when he has nothing to add, speaks respectfully when he does, has tolerance for differing opinions, as in his beliefs are good for him, but realizes that everyone else is an individual with their own choices.
He is selfish when the time is proper, meaning after giving, protecting and leading. . . a real man leads by example, a real man does not insist what is right or wrong, but gives examples of better and not so good to illustrate his point.
He plays sports with his peers, but not his woman, he cares for the house, and the car, he does dishes and can cook, and can clean. . . in other words, all activities in life are genderless. . . and all activities he can participate in, even if the activities are not his favorite or even on his list to do, if his SO wants to do them. . .
oh, wait, that's the way i try to live my life. . .
wiftty
Learning from your own mistakes creates experience, learning from books creates knowledge, combining the two together creates wisdom => You start with a full bag of luck, and an empty bag of experience. The trick is to fill the bag of experience before you empty the bag of luck.
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That pretty much sums up everything I could have said WIFTT!
Just throw in a good role model and caring for their children [if they have them].
Other than that, I'd say you said it all very well.
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hehe... either everyone's pondering your fantastic question, or they are scared to answer. LOL! My thoughts exactly Faith! Perhaps it's a little of both. I probably should've asked a really important question like: "Does size really matter"? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> OK - I'll try to get this thing rolling. A "Real Man" by FR: 1. Knows and shows that family always comes first! 2. Knows that "right" & "wrong" still matters - and proves it by words and actions. 2. Shows that commitment is all about black & white - never about grey or color! 3. Proves that the words "I Love You" are 3 of the most important words he will ever utter. 4. Understands that sex is pretty much available anywhere; and like anything else that is easily obtainable - somehow seems to be missing something. "Making Love" however - is an event that words can never describe. As it should be. 5. That laughter is one of the best things he can share with his family. FR <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face. Challenges can be stepping stones or stumbling blocks. It’s just a matter of how you look at them. The purpose of life is to live it, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience
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double swoon <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> Yes I believe size does matter IMHO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Honesty - You know exactly who he is and he knows exactly who he is. Along with this is commitment and fidelity..
Acceptance- accepting of themselves and loving people for who they are.
Personal Integrity- Morality and high personal values. If you dont have it, your not a real man.
Strength- He should be able to make the tough choices that come along in life, when his partner can't. Be the engineer of his own train! And to be able to say no, in a non demeaning way, when a significant other is about to make a dangerously foolish mistake. (notice this has nothing to do with physical strength)
Tenderness - Someone who isn't afraid to hold a hand, kiss in front of the kids, cuddle on the couch.
Family First - its not about the job, career or money (as I found out the hard way), its your FAMILY. A real man realizes that.
Humor - The ability to make your best friend laugh...to get a good chuckle out or ordinary things in life in general.
Missing are looks, social standing or income for these do not make a "real man."
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To me, a "real man" has puppy breath...no, no, just kidding!
He KNOWS himself!! He KNOWS he isn't perfect, but aware of what he needs to do to get where he wants to be.
He's able to express himself and who he is. I can work with anything from that standpoint!
Oh, and he sounds like FR!!!
Unless he's terribly small, size doesn't matter!
"As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same"- Nelson Mandella
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Fish,
I like your answer a lot too!
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