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#1529552 11/28/05 03:02 PM
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Have you tried to kiss him? Or asked him to kiss you? I've never done that, so I dunno, but something like "I'd love to know what your kisses are like" or "what would you think if I kissed you?" ... depending on the mood of the moment.. playful, serious or romantic or whatever.

But.. I'm glad you're thinking of moving on... or at least going out with someone else. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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Oh Faith!!! I just had a post ready to go and chickened out because I didn't know what to say really!

My thing is, I go back and forth on this guy. I've not been seeing anyone else, because I've been busy and it's just been "okay", but I don't know if I want "okay" anymore!

I met him on-line. We've been out several times, and several times just have hung out. He's very smart, caring, a VERY good family man, has a good job. I feel like I can talk to him...yet there is a BIT of attraction lacking for me. I'm not sure what it is, because he is a handsome man, but it might be the way he presents himself...not sure.
It's just comfortable. And that's okay, but maybe it isn't enough for me.
EVERY thing I've said that I didn't care for, he stopped or changed it immediately. Silly little things that I know in time would irritate me... for example... he will be telling a story and go on and on... about something that has NOTHING to do with the story (OMG, am I doing that now?!). I'll tell him yeah, yeah, get to the point (because he could (and I'm not kidding) take an hour to tell a 10 minute story. So silly little things that he does-oh, big one, he will be text messaging someone while out eating with me...I don't know always, many times it's his DS17, which is fine, but he'll stop what he's talking about and I feel it's a little rude when we are sitting in a nice restaurant eating. No, it's not an emergency on the other line, just going back and forth...

ANYWAY, we talked last week and I asked him if he ever thinks of kissing me? He said ALL the time, it just hasn't "felt" right. I kinda agree.
I know he feels completely comfortable with me...I don't know, it's just the strangest thing.
I'm pretty sure he's seeing other women, although he is very private about it, and that's just fine with me. We have no commitment, we are just "dating".
I don't think I could ask him to kiss me. I don't think I could say any of that! Why am I all of the sudden feeling like a little school girl?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />


"As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same"- Nelson Mandella
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hmmm... well... we had the discussion on here a while ago about multi-dating, and is it OK to kiss and such if you are multi-dating... and maybe he's one that is NOT comfortable kissing while he is still "shopping" and getting to know you... and multi-dating. I dunno. For me, I think at THIS point, in order to continue seeing him, I'd wanna know what it's like, so I would say something else about it to "just get it out of the way so we'll know what it's like - we don't have to start doing it all the time or anything". That's just me, and my personality, I can be playful and blunt and just say stuff. Dating should be fun, right? But, if ya'll enjoy going out more as FRIENDS, and ya'll both recognize that, I suppose that's OK too.

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hee hee! That would be funny to say! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

You know....I never thought of it that way-that he is still shopping and HE may not feel comfortable....hmmmm... very good point!

I dunno either. I don't push it, don't pursue it. When we DID talk about it he told me I could make the move too, but uh, just not feelin' it... and maybe he isn't either!

Alright, well, I'm not going to make a big deal out of it. I'm still busy, but if something comes along I'll bite... but not hard!
But even though I'm not making an issue, I AM going to poke fun at the situation!

So I guess sometimes letting it go is better than making an issue.

Guess what?! I got a puppy yesterday! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> His name is Romeo! He's so sweet! I can't wait to get home to him! hee hee!


"As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same"- Nelson Mandella

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