My marriage is very much in recovery. It does still hurt and I am sure it will for a very long time. One of the things that happened during the affair was my wife got pregnant and had an abortion (I was overseas so the baby wasn't mine). I know this may be traumatic for my wife and I am looking for any advice anyone has.

Nikon,
How long ago was the abortion? How long has your marriage been in recovery? How is your FWW feeling now about the decision to have an abortion? How are you feeling about her choosing to do that because of the A?

Post-abortion support can be important. There are many Christian sources (locally and on internet), and 1 secular resource that I know of:
www.afterabortion.com (has non-political discussion board)

Rachel's Vineyard http://www.rachelsvineyard.org/ has a tollfree hotline and weekend retreats that focus on healing. It is a Catholic ministry but accepts everyone without judgement; I've heard they are very good.

Since you says she feels traumatized, I'm sure a retreat or grief counseling could help. Probably her guilt over the affair and the abortion compound each other, so healing from one could help her heal from the other.

It's a very sensitive topic, and the politics often over-shadows the woman's feelings so she doesn't get to share honestly.

If you need more resources, let me know.

Best wishes on your marriage recovery!!!
"J" (7 years recovery <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> )