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It's been 3 months since I found out about my wife's affairs. I've been trying very hard to make my wife happy so that we can salvage our marriage. All along she has been reassuring me that she loves me. That has kept me going. Tonight we got into an argument and she confessed that she's starting to realize that she does not want to be with me anymore.
I don't know if her feelings are clouded by her "fog" or it's just fact and I have to deal with it. She says she doesn't want a divorce but yet she doesn't want to be with me. I am very confused.
At what point do I say to myself that it's time to move on??
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Is she having contact with the OM?
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No. She has discontinued all ties with the other people.
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Okay, how long have you been married? I see she has cheated several times in a 4 month period. Is that correct?
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What is she doing to regain your trust?
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nickatnight,
You pray alot for her deliverance. As my pastor said to my H who cheated, he joined himself to OW and the partners she had had also. Frightening thought I know. Sometimes I believe the fog can be there, like the other person still being there, in a soulish way, making her confused. It's like a stronghold of the OP still with your wife, and only God has the power to remove that stronghold.
Prayers,
Lady
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We've been married for 3 years.. together for 5. She had 3 affairs with co-workders in 3-4 months that I'm aware of. There may have been more because she had a profile on a extramarital affair website.
What has she done to regain my trust? Other than quiting her job, not much. She has been very annoyed by my insecurities. My recent need to be clingy is driving her away. I feel she is very un-understanding of my situation.
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3 affairs in 3-4 months and a profile on an extramarital affair website is a lot more that just your wife trying to have her emotional needs met.
More than likely she is dealing with deeper emotional issues. Is she in any type of counseling?
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