Does anyone have information about or insight into an inane, but repetitive, attraction to emotionally unavailable people?

Could be a FOO issue. Sometimes if folks come from an emotionally unavailable parent, it feels comfortable at first. Or it might be that they are trying to work through FOO issues by turning it around this time.

Yes, what believer said coupled with something else.

Maybe part of the attraction is the accomplishment you've made if this person chooses you to be emotionally open with. Kinda the white knight/savior syndrome.

Having choosen an emotionally unavailable (ex)husband I'm still trying to figure out the attraction but I have one idea. I had dated a needy man in my past & knew I didn't like that, hated it actually. Perhaps I went too far in the opposite direction thinking the emotionally unavailable man would be lower maintenance. My shrink thought not but I wonder if there isn't something there.

I am making the conscious effort to look for men who can be emotionally open & connected. What I'm finding is I have some difficulty in being very open in a face to face situation. I can identify, understand & write my feelings but face to face getting my thoughts & feelings into words is a bit more difficult. I do it but it's harder than I'd like it to be.

hmmm... very interesting.

Letsee... I tend to be attracted to emotionally UN-available men. Perhaps I see them as a challenge. ... a shell that I can crack open... a puzzle for me to figure out.

but... I tend to "get stuck" with VERY emotionally AVAILABLE men. They are clear, and easy to understand. I know what they want and what they are thinking, so it's easy to have a relationship with them.

nams made me think... about myself... I can share myself in writing, or with very close and/or trusted friends, but am not very open and available myself.

Well, if we can figure this one out, we need to have some sort of road show or write a book or something!!

First, I think when I was going after the emotionally unavailable, it was because I was. I didn't FEEL like I was! (Is that an oxymoron, or what?!) I was not aware of what I felt and why. What I did, was focus on THEM, try to get THEM to open up to me, instead of focusing on myself and why I was continually bashing myself against a brick wall. In my doing this , it's like nams said, about coming to their rescue, freeing them from their inability to communicate. BUT, in doing that, I was not facing MY issues, my feelings...it was all about them!
What irony!
I think the key to overcoming this, is knowing oneself, and what YOU (or whoever you are talking about) have to offer, getting in touch with yourself, and knowing that you don't have to live that way. Once you do, it isn't even something you can tolerate!
good luck! Long process!