It looks like all my dating problems and concerns are over for now. One lady decided there was no chemistry for her. Another I recently met, agreed to go out with me saying we had a lot in common. Two days later I call her and no answer. I call her back, a day later and leave a message, no reply. I e-mail her and get no response. I know she is home and in town and her profile shows her to be active.

So, my dating problems have been solved. I will just enjoy myself with friends. I don't plan on looking for a date until after the new year. If some Honey winks at me, I will respond, but I am not initiating anything.

ahhhhhhh JE!! Don't give up ship yet!!!

Which dating site?..I'll wink at ya!!! and I'll send all my friends!!

BIG hugs!!

Well, Justin, that takes care of that. It is hard getting back into the dating thing. There will be lots of strike outs, but remember, it only takes one home run.

There is a lady out there somewhere looking for you. Just keep that in mind.

One thing that I think is working against me is that my divorce is recent, only about one year. That doesn't seem to bother men, but many women seem wary of that. On more than one occasion when asked how long it's been since my divorce the woman makes some comment like "that's pretty recent" or "you're still new at being single" or some other similar situation. While they don't direcly reject me, it does seem to raise some red flags.

Overall, I am not going to worry about it. At the risk of sounding vain, I am a pretty good catch (I am NOT claiming to be better than any other guy), I have a good job. I am reasonably HWP. I am financially secure, though I will have to work until I'm 65. I have a good retirment. I am healthy, even tempered, loyal, love to travel, go to the theater, listen to music and dance. And I cook. The only thing I can't seem to do well is generate 'chemistry' with the women I meet. I guess will have to practice being more of a bad boy.

Maybe that will be my New Year's resolution: Develop and bring out the ROGUE in me!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

NO! you stay just the way you are...as believer said..your princess is out there...you just haven't found the right foot for the glass slipper!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Justin -

Just keep plugging along. You have the qualities that women are looking for. It just takes staying in the game, and weeding through them all.

When I start feeling discouraged, I remember that my man is out there somewhere, and I need to have faith that we will find each other.

Justin,

You will find your princess when you least expect it.

Best wishes for you!

Aw, Come on! Can't I be just a little bit of a rogue??
Please!!

lol...only behind closed doors <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

(((((JE))))))

Online dating can have it's frustrations. You can't take it TOO seriously. Sometimes you have to look at it like a numbers game. Lots of winks and e-mails, and sometimes lots of first meetings, to find some jewels. I looked at it as a way to practice my dating skills, to meet people, build my confidence, and if something great came along then GREAT!

(I say "looked" because I can only take about 3 months of it, then I'm burned out. So I'm done on there for a while. I'm seeing the last one now. If he doesn't work out, oh well. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> )

Hang in there. DOn't give up, but it IS ok to take a little break every now and then.

I've posted on here before how many men I've dated this past year-too many to mention! I've met A LOT of nice guys. Really, more good than bad. And I will say AGAIN-I would much rather be single than in the wrong relationship again. I know what that feels like all too well. And I'm not going to settle again...cuz that will always lead to break up and unhappiness.
JE, just keep believin! Have faith that she is out there, probably with some loser, dreaming of someone like you...and when the time is right...WHAMMO!!! She's gonna knock your socks off!
That's what I keep thinking anyway...that there is someone worthy of me, and me him. It's taken time and patience, and the longer I'm alone the more I learn about who I am and what I have to offer and more sure I WILL NOT settle!
After my divorce I remember thinking, "Gosh, there's got to be a reason I'm going through this!" And that's when it dawned on me... there is/was! I'm holding out for that ONE for me!! So far... ??? It's been a year and half for me after a very short marriage. But man, when I find him... He's gonna be loved like he never dreamed!!! And so will I!!
Until then, I put that love into myself and my friends. I'm a great catch too, but only MY Mr. Right is going to know it...and it won't call for me comprimising anything!!!

Well, maybe I will practice roguism just a little.

Faith, I agree with getting burned out. For me, it takes about 6-8 weeks and then I just want peace and quiet and some predictability in my life. And with the Holidays, being so busy, it is a good time to take a break anyway. Otherwise, I'm on overload.

I think what really bothers me at times is that my cheating ex wife is now very happily married to the OM (I have to admit, they are happy and doing very well, can't deny that.) while I am struggling just to find somebody to have a small romance with and see where it goes. I know, if I want fair, I should go to the County Fair. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

But, one thing I have learned from people here and other places is to invest in myself and my friends and family. I am doing more of that and it does feel very good.

That is great. I found the same thing.. I spend lots of time with friends and family. This is an oppurtunity to get even closer to them.

You are a good catch and some lady is looking for you.