I am feeling better than I have in SUCH a long time, and I don't know WHY! Go figure!<P>My H decided not to be involved in any closure letter with the OM, but I wrote a short version where I said things like, "we used to say never say never about our relationship. Now I say instead, 'NEVER'". I emailed it and told him that it was the last personal-type email I would ever send him. Then I copied it and brought it home so my H could read it if he chose to. He says he doesn't want to, but I have it anyway. The OM is upset (big whoop, big deal) because I think he held on to some romantic idea that we would be together one day, even though it has been over for 3 months. I KNEW I had to do something tangible to prove that I meant business by ending it - which I DID.<P>As many of you know, there have been good days and bad with my H and me. So what? There were good days and bad before infidelity entered our lives, and there will be more of them as we go on throughout our lives.<P>I'm in such a good place right now. I don't care what happens as long as my H and I make it together somehow. <P>I have nothing profound to add... just wanted to share some happiness. Lately, I have been a bit of a downer (THANKS ALOT AIRHEART FOR POINTING THAT OUT!). But underneath it all, I am an optomist at heart <P>------------------<BR>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<BR>

Now that's what we like (and need) to hear!!!! YAY!!!!!<P>Good for you!!<P>And when this thread is done.....print it out so you can reread it when you and H have one of those yucky "moments"<P>HUGS,<P>Sheba

new_beginning -- Good for you. I would say that congratulations are in order. <P>God Bless

I'm not much of a hugging type person, but in this case...<P>{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}<P>And one for you too 3wishes --<P>{{{{{{{HAND-SHAKE}}}}}}}<P>(what... you thought I was gonna hug a guy?)<P>--andy

New Beginning,<P>You said you were voted most humorous and was usually upbeat?<P>I love to laugh and be happy, too. I mean I know everyone does, but I hate feeling sad. I don't like to see any movies but comedies because I can't stand taking on other people's problems when they aren't even real and sad movies bother me for days. Some people like a good cry. I hate it.<P>Anyway...if you are like me, feeling down in and of itself can make you feel worse. Sometimes it helps me to remember that.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Way to go , nb !!!!!! <BR>I really like that decision.<BR>Believe me it was the best thing you could do, no matter what happens in your marriage.<BR>A big hug<BR>Kat<P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.