You mentioned it in another post and I would love to do this. Can you give me some concrete examples? I want to shake things up a bit. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

LBs from afar: This is when a BS sets things in motion and the chain reaction causes LBs without the BS being present to cause it.

Example 1:

BS went dark. Into plan B. Got silent but cordial. Scared the heck out of the OW, (who BTW wanted to control the BS and family and NOT just the WS).

In an e-mail to the Ws, the OW wrote: 'watch out for L (Orchid), she is up to something. I don't know what but she is too quiet. She is being nice to you because she is about to do something. She wants to divide us. We must be united in our stand against her...... '

That was the gist of the e-mail I read. LOL!!! Then the WS calls me to tell me that the OW (who is 5'4") was afraid of me. OW told the WS that she was constantly looking over her shoulder and was afraid to go out her front door (boy did she exaggerate) because of me. Well, I had taken a bag of the WS' dirty laundry (work clothes) and hung it on her front door one weekend. That in itself is another story. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Now I am 4'10" on a good day <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />. The OW really should have anything to fear from me. LOL!!! But she wanted to play the victim. So I told the WS that I was glad she had to look over her shoulder.....maybe she would get a kink in her nect while do so. LOL!!!


Example 2: Put doubt in the WS' head. I asked the WS if the OW was into illegal drugs. He asked why, I said there has been 'questionnable activities'. He asked what did I know, I gave a vague reply. Vague replies do a lot to damage the A. Just like they do a lot when the WS gives vague replies to the BS. One's imagination goes wild and imagines the worst of the worst.

I like #2. Putting doubt on stuff was easy t/d. When pressed to qualify my statements, I would shrug my shoulders. I was doing the same to the WS as he had done to me. It would set them at each other's throats. Of course I had a psycho OW in my case so eventually I would get an e-mail or phone call with some sort of threat or dumb accusation.

I learned to use their own words and actions against them. Kept raising my eyebrows and putting vague questions out there. Drove them nuts. Did wonders for ruining their times together. U do realize that the WS & OW spend a lot of time gossiping and planning how to plot against the BS and family?!?!?!?

That c/b a good tool. Use it to your advantage. There are no rules....just survival. Be creative. You may find what you think is a bad thing c/b turned into a useful tool. Like turning lemons into lemonade.

L.

Any questions or comments on my last post?

L.

Well, currently my WS does not know I know. So, I am trying to think of ways to cause LBs from afar with that in mind. Am considering my next course of action, but this concept really appeals to me. Great strategy.

Some things I know you have done crack me up, like saying the WS smells and such. But, I am in Plan A, so probably not a good idea <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Awwwhhh, but it c/b. That's the beauty of reverse babble. The WS won't know what hit 'em. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Of course it takes practice. I practiced in front of the bathroom mirror for days. Then when I laid it on him (the WS), it left his mind spinning. What I had to learn t/d was leave him spinning and NOT try to fix it. Eventually I learned.

I also realized that the WS was gonna be mad no matter what I did because it wasn't so much what I was doing, just the fact that I was doing anything. So then I learned not to make the WS a priority in my life. My priorities were my son, my life, God, family, friends, work, H, bill collectors...... waaay down there the WS. Yea, H has falled a few notches also. That's because he was hanging around the WS. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

L.

Thanks, Orchid. Yes, I have been putting my WH first for too long. He does not know I know about the break in NC, but I intend to have some fun with this-- keep the ideas coming!!

Orchid and Serene,

So sorry to intrude on the conversation, but I wanted to say that Orchid's post IS TOTALLY AWESOME!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Orchid's angle on the cheating dealio is refreshing yet goes like a razor's edge to the jugular.

This is a WAR.....TO H*LL WITH THE SOMBITCHES!!

You are the resistance, doing all you can to hinder and defeat the enemy (OW), in the trenches, in the air, behind enemy lines,.parachuting in a terrible thunderstorm.....

Do all you can to disrupt the enemy's lines of communication.

Orchid, does MB have this technique in their library??

If not, they better.

k

What, reverse babble? I guess. Maybe a more controlled approach. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I tend to go for the surprise attacks when dealing with the WS. Yea, I see the WS as the enemy of the M and family. Of course it is a delicate line because the WS holds our spouses in their clutches.

Keeping the 'enemy' confused is a useful tool. There was a thread a few years ago about how terrorists and WS' have similar characteristics. It was too strong an idea for some to swallow but in light of events since 9/11 and thereafter, the tactics used by many a WS are just as selfish as many criminal minds. Scary but true. Do they really know what they are doing? Sometimes yes and other times no. Either way, the WS are a danger to the family.

Plan A your spouse and plan B the WS helps the BS stay safe.

JMHO, of course. I am not a professional, just been there, done that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for the vote of confidence.

L.

Wow! what a great tool to use, sometimes it pays to think outside the box!! BRAVO!!! Wish I would have seen this several years ago. In my case the OW is a nut job and this would of worked for sure!!!! and WS would have bought it hook line and sinker. I will treasure this advice and pass it on in the future.

Send your H anonymous gifts at work .... a bouquet of balloons with a very sexy note .... "Why? .... Because you make me feel so happy! I love you."

don't sign it ....

your H will ask OW first if she sent it .... trust me .... he would be a fool to ask his wife first! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

hee-hee

Give your H a HUGE hickey if you have reason to believe he and OW are planning a secret meeting .... and some fingernail marks too ....

or .... write on his [censored] with a marker when he's asleep

""or .... write on his [censored] with a marker when he's asleep""

THIS IS GETTING BETTER AND BETTER! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Keep them coming.

k

Wow, Pep.....don't get you started on this stuff. U c/b dangerous. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I was thinking of signing up the OW for those sleazy dating services or put her phone # in some of those sleazy bars with in pizza invite to her home. Free beer, pizza and a hot chili. LOL!!! Oh yea..... the OW provides the cheese. YUCK!!

L.

How about super glueing is manhood to his stomach while he's asleep!!!!

OUCH!
At the beginning of the A, the WS bought new clothes..... t-shirts, shorts. I was sooo tempted to cut holes in them. U know small ones where 'things' would fall out?!!?! Oohh I had to really control myself from that temptation. LOL!!!

L.

Pep,


I did this, but my W would cover it with DermaBlend. So I just stuck it on the back of her neck and right as she was leaving for work, tell her that her hair was flipping in the back so she would out it up in a ponytail to expose the mark.


Too funny. Trying to imagine what Pep might write.

S&C

You shouldn't say anything harsh about OW, but you can mention that you overheard something. I'm assuming that you know who OW is. Maybe say something to WH like: "I heard that OW is having an A. I think it is with Y (married friend of WH that OW would know). His poor wife. Can you imagine what she must be going through? It must be horrible on his kids. I even heard that OW has a SID. Isn't that just terrible, dear?"

Hahahahahahaha <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

See what u started Serene?!?!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

Send OW an anonymous "gift"

a chocolate bar ... tied with a pink ribbon

and a note saying .... "meet me at our secret spot and we can share something sweet XOXO"

....OW will ask your H what he means by this ... and WH will wonder if she has someone else ????